9 Effective Tips To Kill Your Destructive Self-Image

Do you find criticizing yourself too often? Have you stopped loving yourself as a personality?

If Yes, What if I told you this single post could help you change your self-image forever?

Would you be interested?

I am 1000% sure that your answer would be a YES!

Now you might be wondering, “How is it even possible?”

Forget about any of the concerns for a few minutes and hop right into the post. You’ll automatically get all the answers.

What is Self-Image?

Self-Image, in simple words, is how you look at yourself as a person. It is how you perceive your appearance, personality, and abilities.

You could form two types of self-image i.e. positive and negative self-image.

Difference between Positive and Negative Self-Image

A positive self-image is when you acknowledge your strengths and feel confident about your looks and personality. You don’t want to change and feel satisfied with the way you are.

A negative self-image is when you focus on your weaknesses upto such an extent that you start feeling as if you don’t have any strengths. You constantly criticize yourself for who you are or how you look.

Here’s a detailed infographic of the difference:-

Why is it Important to Have a Positive Image of yourself in your Mind?           

Before we move on to the topic “How to change your self-image?” you need to know, “why is it important to change your negative self-image to a positive self-image?” 

So, here are the 5 reasons:-

1. A positive self-image helps you to stay inspired and motivated.
2. It helps you to strive towards success.
3. Having a positive self-image improves your self-esteem and self-confidence.
4. It improves your overall personality.
5. It helps you to build a strong mentality that you could accomplish anything.

9 Simple Yet Effective Tips to Improve Self-Image

Now, it is the right time to tell you the methods you can use to improve your self-image.

So, here we go:-

1. Stop Making Comparisons

You cannot put a square peg in a round hole. 

The #1 reason for a poor self-image is comparing yourself with other people. 
You need to realize that everybody is different. 
The people you are comparing yourself with also have their own strengths and weaknesses. 

So, by comparing yourself with others, you are doing nothing but underestimating your own value.
You are unique, special, and perfect the way you are. 
Don’t compare yourself with anybody. 

2. Don’t Fall into the Social Media Trap

Social media is a place where people show off their personality, lifestyle, and attitude. 
Their pictures and video clips might make you feel that their lives are full of happiness, but that isn’t the reality. The fact is they too have their problems which they don’t show in front of their camera.      

Getting inspired by them is different, but feeling that you don’t have any strengths will make your self-image poorer.  
Please don’t fall into the false trap that they are perfect, and you need to be like them to live a happy life.

3. Practice Positive Affirmations

You have to declutter self-criticism from your life. All those negative thoughts are making your self-image poorer.

Practice positive affirmations each morning and start your day with positivity.

Here are a few examples:- 

• I am enough.
• Slowly and steadily, I’ll make it happen.
• I choose happiness over perfection.
• I am grateful for who I am.

Soon, you’ll start feeling better, and your self-image will improve.

4. Change your Surroundings

You are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.  

If you surround yourself with the wrong people, those people will try to pinpoint your small mistakes and imperfections.
In reality, they can’t accept that you are better than them and try to pull you back in life.

At some point in life, their constant criticism will start frustrating you, and you’ll develop self-doubt, which will lead to a poor self-image.

Therefore, to prevent such a situation, surround yourself with people who encourage you to excel in life. Learn collectively and keep growing. It will help you to stay positive, and your self-image will automatically improve.

5. Stop Living in other People’s Perceptions

Today, I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am.
I am what I think you think I am.

~Charles Cooley

One of the biggest reasons for having a poor self-image is that you might be trying to live in other people’s perception of you. 
You try to live upto other people’s expectations, but the reality is that the expectations will keep getting higher.
You’ll keep chasing them, but the expectations won’t end. Therefore, you’ll fail to achieve all of them, and your self-image will keep getting worse.

So, what to do now?

Live life the way you want to live. Not how others want you to live. Create your goals and work to achieve them.      

6. Perfection isn’t Real

Perfection does not exist.

The truth is that nobody is a perfectionist, and everybody has their own flaws.
If you try to become perfect, you’ll set unrealistic targets that aren’t achievable. Thus, you’ll fail and lower down your self-image that you can accomplish anything.

So, it’s better to focus on becoming the best version of yourself instead of aiming for perfection.
Work hard and keep going.

7. Listen to your Heart

You create a poor self-image when deep down, you know that you are doing something wrong. 
It could be a profession that makes you feel guilty or anything else that doesn’t feel somewhat right.

People might appreciate your success, but you’ll feel hollow from inside. 

So, hear your heart and do the things that make you feel proud! 

8. Change if you can, Don’t Bother if you Can’t

Have you ever thought this:-

• Why worry if you can’t change something?
• Why worry if you can change something?

Interesting right?

So, if you can change something that you want to, Why wait? Just do it!
Take one step at a time.
Trust me! You’ll start improving your self-image as you’ll achieve progress.

Now, if you can’t control something in your life, just let it be. 
Move on because thinking about it and feeling bad won’t change anything.   

9. You’ve Got One Life

Dear friend, you’ve got one short life, and there’s no rewind button to it.

Why do you want to live it being unacceptable to yourself?
Why do you feel sad and keep demotivating yourself for who you are? 

Do you really think it is required?
Of course not!

Be happy and grateful for what you have. Cherish every moment of your life as you never know when it’s your last day. 

Parting Words

Your true potential lies on the other side of your poor self-image.

Don’t let your negative self-image harm you anymore.

Start implementing the above-listed methods from the present moment, and soon you’ll get to know about the bunch of unexplored potentials you had.

So, that’s it for this post. Let me know in the comments section if it helped. 
See you in the next post.
Till then, stay happy, stay blooming.