Do you also find yourselves thinking in circles, worrying about every little thing, and stretching all those little things to see just the adverse outcomes?
Then, my friend, we have got to stop this worrying of yours.
And don’t worry, you aren’t alone in this. Around 5 – 6% of the total population suffer from this dangerous habit.
Worrying is a habit, and you may form a habit in 21 days, but getting rid of it takes a bit longer.
However, with a few hacks and constant efforts, you’ll break right through it.
What is this habit of worrying, and Why do we worry?
Worrying about something like an exam, relationship, or a fight is a normal thing to do, and we all do it.
But it becomes a problem when you start having running thoughts about every little thing like what to eat? or did that remark have a hidden meaning? Blah, blah, blah, all the utter nonsense you fill your minds with and let it disrupt your daily life.
If we are aware of all this, then why let it affect our lives so much. Why do we worry ourselves to death?
The answer is escapism. As human beings, we tend to escape from everything that causes us discomfort or is unpleasant to us.
When we face discomforting emotions, we choose to worry about something else to avoid those negative emotions. No matter how uncomfortable worrying is, it’s still better than facing those emotions.
Why can’t you stop worrying?
You tend to take one of these two roads.
1) You give up – You start believing that your worry will destroy your life. You can’t do anything about it, and you begin to worry even more.
2)You accept it – You develop this false belief that worrying is helping you. You assume that it’s the reason you did well in your career, scored well in your school tests, or didn’t make wrong decisions.
You start to think that worrying for long periods over something will lead to a solution.
But in reality, thinking about a particular problem beyond a certain point is bound to create confusion, and confusion is a chief cause of worry.
Well, to be honest with you, both of these roads lead straight to hell because, if unchecked, chronic worrying can lead to mental and physical breakdowns.
Excessive worrying is the hidden reason for stomach ulcers, high blood pressure, and even heart attacks. According to physicians, you can cure half of your disease if you stop worrying so much. Worrying not only leads to these diseases, it even makes them more fatal.
So, if you are worrying excessively, that might be a good reason to stop.
“You don’t get stomach ulcers from what you eat. You get ulcers from what is eating you. “~ Dr. Joseph F. Montague (Author Nervous Stomach)
9 Hacks To Stop Worrying
1) Live In A Day-Tight Compartment
You must find yourself worrying about either one of these, the dead past or the unseen future.
The reason being, these two are the easiest and the deadliest thing to worry about, as it is effortless to get lost in them. Moreover, you can think about these for eternity, and still, you won’t get anywhere.
It only makes carrying today’s task even harder.
“The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest falter.”
~ Dale Carnegie
Create this habit to cut off the dead past and the unseen future to live in the present.
Focus on today, the only thing that’s in your hand. Learn to live without having any anxiety about the past or the future.
“Anyone can carry his burden, however hard until nightfall.”~ Robert Louis Stevenson
So, just shut the doors of yesterday and tomorrow to live in a day-tight compartment.
2) Say goodbye to your worries in worry time
Dedicate a particular time to your worry, set aside 20 – 30 min of your day whenever you find it comfortable, avoiding the time before bedtime. Think all about your worries in that fixed time, and stop worrying when worry time is over.
Whenever a worrisome thought comes to your mind, be aware of that thought and push it to your worry time.
It helps you in two ways:-
First, by pushing your worry, you may even forget the insignificant thing you were worrying about.
Second, when you think about your problem in worry time, you will be more focused, and you won’t waste your whole day.
3) Write your worries down
Whenever you are worried about something, grab a notepad and answer these questions, “What am I so worried about?” & “What can I do about it?” It might seem easy, but writing is much harder than thinking, and your worry becomes weaker in this process.
“A problem well stated is a problem half-solved.”~ Charles Kettering
4) Let it all out
It would be best if you didn’t keep your worries to yourself. Instead, let your worries out by talking about them with a trusted friend or family. Just try to have a healthy solution-oriented discussion about your worries.
If you feel there is nobody with whom you can talk about all this, start writing things down in a journal. It has a similar effect, and you can review your journal later to find out all the little things that you used to worry about weren’t so big.
5) Use the magic formula by Willis H. Carrier to stop worrying
Willis H. Carrier laid out this 3-step magic formula to solve your worries.
Step – 1: Calmly analyze the situation. Figure out what’s the worst that could happen from a failure.
Step – 2: After figuring out the worst possible outcome, be prepared to accept it in case the situation becomes horrible.
Step – 3: As you are now prepared to accept the worst, your mind is now calmer and more focused. Now, dedicate all your time and energy to improve upon the worst.
This trick works wonders because when you are worried, you lose your ability to think. Your mind starts wandering all over the place, thinking about what will happen and all, so when you are prepared to accept the worst, it calms down and starts thinking.
6) Practice mindful meditation
Make it a habit to sit down and meditate daily for about 10 – 15 min. It helps you to declutter your mind from all those negative thoughts.
When you are aware of your worries but don’t pay attention to them, they slowly cease to exist.
7) Keep yourself busy
Indulge yourself in productive activities that keep you occupied both mentally and physically. It is scientifically proven that it’s challenging to think about two things at the same time.
Let’s show you an example. Try to think about your tomorrow’s schedule while imagining the statue of liberty.
You weren’t able to do it, Right? Similarly, when you are busy doing something productive, you don’t have time or resources to worry about anything else.
8) Burn your worries along with some calories
Make sure to include at least an hour of rigorous workout or sports in your daily schedule. It’s one of the best ways to release stress because when you’re working out, you are so involved in the activity that your mind forgets about all of your worries and gets relaxed.
Plus, it improves your physique and boosts your confidence, thus one less thing for you to worry about.
9) Go easy on yourself & relax for some time
It’s really easy to get conscious about your worries and start worrying about them, so go easy on yourself and don’t get burned out trying hard not to worry.
Simply stop giving a damn about everything, relax, and enjoy life.
Because in the end…
Enjoying your life to the fullest is all that matters.
It’s important to realize that it’s impossible to live a worry-free life. There will be moments when you have to worry about things.
But I am sure if you keep practicing these hacks, you’ll be able to enjoy your life again, and your habit of worrying constantly will vanish forever.
So, stop thinking and take action to make your life better.