13 Heartbreaking Signs He’s Talking to Someone Else

Finding out that your partner is seeing someone else is shattering! You gave him all the love and invested yourself in the relationship. Unfortunately, he shifted his attention to someone else. 

But do you deserve such a person in your life?

I know, dear, some doubts about your guy have come to your mind, and that’s why you are here. His ‘changed’ behavior makes you wonder whether he is cheating on you or just busy with life. 

As always, I’m here to help. In this blog, I’ll share 13 clear signs he’s talking to someone else, which can help you resolve your doubts. 

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1. He Doesn’t Give You Enough Attention.

The long walks, beautiful laughter, and endless banter with your guy are replaced with half-conversations, inattentive listening, and lack of attention. He doesn’t prioritize you anymore like he used to. 

Even when you’re on a date, he doesn’t seem to be present at the moment. He doesn’t listen to you carefully, gives you short replies, and is constantly on his phone. 

When you try to question him about his behavior, he instantly dismisses it. 

Do you relate to this? Do you often feel he is forcing himself to be attentive towards you? If you’re saying yes, I’m afraid he’s talking to someone else. 

2. He is Always ‘Busy’ on Call.

One of the signs he’s talking to someone else could be when you always find him ‘busy’ on the phone. You call him only to hear, ‘The person you’re trying to reach is currently busy.’ 

Okay, I understand work and meetings, but so often? Even on weekends? The worst part is when he doesn’t call you back after seeing your missed calls. 

No man is ever too busy to give a call to his ladylove. Why is he occupied on the phone for most of the day? Well, maybe because he’s having a good time talking to his ‘new interest.’ 

If you relate this scenario to your partner’s recent behavior, keep yourself aware. There might be a high chance he’s talking to someone else.

3. He Hardly Makes Plans With You. 

One of the other signs he’s talking to someone else is when he starts avoiding making plans with you. 

You may no longer find your guy interested and excited about initiating a date like he used to be. 

You find him always making an excuse to cancel plans with you. It’s always ‘work’ or ‘bad health.’ Even when you tell him you feel bad, he doesn’t do much to change things. 

Why is your guy unwilling to spend time with you? Why is he unbothered despite knowing his actions have hurt her? Maybe it’s because you’re not his ‘love interest’ anymore!

“Thank you for making me this tasty chicken. It tastes yummy!”

“Everyone should have a partner like you.” 

“Honey, you look your best, even casually.”

Remember how your partner used to compliment you all the time? He’d call you names and show affection to make you feel special. Now, there’s hardly any sign of this. 

One of the main reasons your guy started to pull away could be that he’s talking to someone else. All his interests lie in the other girl, and he has almost forgotten about your existence in his life.

6. He is Super Protective About His Phone. 

Privacy is essential, and I’m not saying being his girlfriend entitles you to check his phone without his permission. 

However, we often see that partners are usually comfortable sharing mobile passwords. Even if they don’t share it, they’re at least okay if their partner picks up the call in case of their absence. 

I feel you had a similar equation with your man, too. But has it suddenly changed?

He doesn’t want you to touch his phone, even just to hand it over to him. He’s always carrying it with him and doesn’t leave his phone alone with you. 

“Hey, your phone is ringing. Shall I pick it?”

“No, no, leave it right there.”

This is almost a repetitive scenario now. Why so? Why is he being so protective about his phone suddenly? Is he hiding something from you? Is there someone ‘special’ messaging or calling him?

Sadly, the possibility actually exists!

7. He No Longer ‘Flaunts’ You on Social Media.

Not everyone likes social media, but if your guy does, he will surely post pictures with you there. Most guys love to ‘flaunt’ their lady love on social media and let the world know they have someone special in their lives. 

If your boyfriend is a social media person, I’m sure he did it too. But things have taken a turn now!

When was the last time he posted a picture with you on Instagram? Can’t remember? Well, something must be off, then. 

Why would he suddenly stop posting his girlfriend’s picture? Maybe he’s trying to hide something from someone- his new “interest.” 

You might ask him why he is doing this and see his reaction. It will tell you a lot about his feelings for you. 

8. He’s Reluctant About Meeting Your Friends. 

Partners often develop great friendships with each other’s friend groups. They hang out together, share moments, and make memories. But when your guy is suddenly reluctant to meet your friends, that’s a problem. 

What further fuels the flame is that he doesn’t want you to meet his friends either. Even if you propose an idea to hang out with friends, he rejects it. Seems like he’s trying to hide something. 

Why? Well, he might not want to play along with your friends anymore because he doesn’t feel the same about you. Or he might not want his friends to reveal any ‘secrets’ about him to you. 

So, whenever you bring up the idea of a friend’s gathering, he’s cold about it. 

If this issue has persisted for a long time, perhaps he’s talking to someone else and trying to escape his current situation. 

9. He Makes Plans at His Convenience.

You feel incredibly hurt by your guy’s unavailability whenever you want to meet him. He has some humanity left and agrees to a meeting- but AT HIS CONVENIENCE.

He dismisses all the possible timings you give him and sticks to a single time. 

“I can only meet you at 8 pm. If you can’t make it, let’s cancel the plan.”

You might even hear such things from him. Meeting at his convenience is okay, but it seems a little weird to you. Why must he be so skeptical about meeting times with his girlfriend? Well, maybe because his other times are booked by ‘someone new.’

Are you relating this scenario to his current behavior? If yes, it could hint that he’s talking to someone else. 

10. He is Always Finding Your ‘Faults.’

Earlier, it was rare for your guy to point a finger at you, but things are the exact opposite now! 

He’s always making you feel guilty about doing something even when you didn’t do it. Or, he makes you feel bad about something you didn’t intend to do.

You simply ask for his time, and he would be like: 

“Can’t you stop nagging at least for once?” 

Or, 

“Your tantrums have increased a lot these days. You’re getting on my nerves.”

His words leave you with self-doubt. You start believing you’re at fault and try to amend your ways to make things okay with him. 

But my dear, will that really work? Can you do much about it if he has decided to talk to someone else? 

I know it hurts, but hey, you have dignity, right?

If you find him pin-pointing your faults and hardly apologizing, it can be a sign he is interested elsewhere. 

11. He Applies His ‘Favorite’ Perfume Often While Going Out. 

One of the other possible signs he’s talking to someone else could be that he often goes out applying his ‘favorite’ perfume. 

Most of us have this psychology: We want to smell good in front of someone we like. So, if you’re your guy’s ladylove, who else must he please with a ‘nice smell’? 

He might have an important meeting or an old friend to meet, and that’s okay! However, repeatedly using the ‘special’ perfume hints at something suspicious. 

Someone so careful about using it in small portions is suddenly overusing it. Well, maybe because your partner’s ‘new love interest’ is intrigued by his smell. 

You might ask him the reason, but if he’s trying to hide it wholeheartedly, you won’t get a satisfactory response. 

12. He is ‘Online’ But Not Talking to You.

How often have you noticed this? That ‘online’ is blinking under his name, yet he is not responding to your texts. Or he’s taking too long to reply to your messages.

Often? Well, that’s a red sign!

Your guy would never keep you waiting for his texts earlier, but things have changed. Again, my dear, I’m not telling you you’re the only one in his life whom he has to text every moment of the day. 

He has friends, colleagues, and acquaintances to reply to. But, his reply rate to you has dropped remarkably these days, which was unimaginable earlier. 

You could have dismissed any suspicious thoughts if he did it for once. But it’s REGULAR now. 

A pinch of salt to the injury? He doesn’t extend the conversation with you anymore. You have been waiting for that reply, and he takes a second to break your expectations. 

When did he turn so cold toward you? When did he stop prioritizing your texts? Well, from the day someone new entered his life.

13. He Hardly Initiates the Conversation. 

When your guy has set his eyes on someone else, he will likely contact you infrequently, compared to the past. You will always be sending the first text or making the first move.

I understand he can be busy with work or studies or can be stressed with something. I’m not saying he has to keep you texting 24/7. 

But how long does it take to wish a ‘good morning note’ to his beloved? How long does it take to share a flirty compliment to his ladylove? 

It’s not more than a minute. But your guy seems to have no time for you anymore because all of it is taken by someone else. That’s why you always make the first move. 

When was the last time he called you on his own? When did he last flirt with you? Do you need help remembering? 

If yes, this suggests that something is off with him, and he may have a new person to flirt with now. 

Wrapping Up 

With that, we wrap up our discussion on the possible signs he’s talking to someone else. I know it’s the hardest thing to digest this kind of behavior from your lover. 

I suggest you not lose your cool initially, even though it’s uncontrollable. Instead of being overly suspicious, it’s essential to understand whether your guy is seeing someone else or if his stress is creating a distance between you two. 

If you recognize most of the above signs in his behavior, he is likely into someone else. In that case, my dear, you must take a stand for yourself and walk out of his life. 

It will tear your heart, but do you deserve to be treated like this? NO. So, know your worth and choose what’s best for you!