8 Signs a Woman is Secretly Jealous of You (+What to Do)

Have you ever caught someone giving you that look? You know the one – a mix of side-eye and forced smile that just doesn’t sit right.

I bet you have. We all have.

It’s that moment when you realize someone might be jealous of you. But how can you be sure?

I’ve been there too many times to count. That’s why I’ve put together this list of 8 telltale signs that a woman is jealous of you. And don’t worry, I’ve also included how to deal it.

Trust me, once you know what to look for, you’ll spot jealousy from a mile away.

So, let’s get started.

1. She Grabs Every Opportunity to Belittle You or Put You Down.

So, you’re having a good time with your friends after a long time. The atmosphere is filled with your laughter and giggles. And one of your friends suddenly says, “Hey, look, there’s a pimple on your face. Don’t you take care of your skin?”

How would you feel? Embarrassed? Insulted? Targeted? 

And even if, whatever she said is true, do you think it’s the right way to highlight your flaws in front of others? No, right?

But this is how a woman would react if she’s jealous of you. She would always try to belittle you and make fun of you to satisfy her ego. She knows she just can’t come up to your level or compete with you.

2. She Gossips About You Behind Your Back.

Ever noticed your friends whispering, but as soon as you walk by, they suddenly go quiet? Or maybe, when you enter the room, someone nudges their friend to stop talking?

If yes, what does it indicate? Jealousy!

When someone feels insecure or threatened, they may try to bring you down by gossiping or excluding you from conversations. It’s their way of masking their own jealousy, hoping to make themselves feel better at your expense.

Let me share a personal experience. Once, my English teacher praised me in front of the whole class, and I could sense the jealousy from two of my so-called friends.

Later that day, I caught them whispering and grinning. When I walked up to them, they stopped talking. I confronted them directly, saying, “You were talking about me, right? Go ahead.”

They were speechless, embarrassed, and couldn’t deny it. But unfortunately, their behavior still didn’t change after that. (Btw, I don’t care. 😂)

3. She Avoids Your Success Parties.

Imagine this: You completed an important project within a cut-throat deadline. So, obviously, your boss and team members are happy with you. They know you have burnt the midnight oil with 100% dedication and effort. 

And the cherry on the top? You got more leads through this project. So, your seniors decide to honor you by throwing a success party. 

But guess what? Your so-called best friend doesn’t show up. It could naturally happen once or twice, perhaps due to a medical or family emergency. However, if it’s the same every time, you know what it’s pointing to.

4. She Enjoys Giving You Backhanded Compliments.

“Hey, this bright color dress looks good on you. It suits your dark complexion, I feel!”
“You’re such a silent girl. I like you. But I wonder how you’ll survive this competitive world.”
“Damn, you’re lucky for being so skinny. You don’t gain weight even after eating fast food. Look at me. Even a single bowl of rice makes my cheeks chubby!”

Have you ever heard such compliments? 

You do feel good initially, but later, you’re wondering whether it was actually a praise or just something fake? The truth is – It was a backhanded compliment.

When a woman is jealous of you, she might give you backhanded compliments so that it neither seems like a direct insult or a compliment. That way she can still be in talking terms with you while putting you down.

5. She Plays The Comparison Game.

“I am living at my parent’s house, and look at you. You purchased a 2BHK flat with her money at such a young age.”
“We both were equally qualified, but you got selected at the highest package in the campus interview.”
“You have huge follower count on Insta, and I have only a few likes and comments on my posts.”

You might have heard such statements from your friends, colleagues, cousins, neighbors, or sisters. This is how jealousy often manifests—through comparison.

When a woman feels insecure or envious, she starts measuring her life against yours, focusing on what she lacks instead of appreciating her own accomplishments.

6. She Has Stopped Talking to You.

Ever had a friend who suddenly just stopped talking to you? One day, you’re sharing memes and secrets, and the next, she’s gone quiet like a ghost. No messages, no calls, nothing.

Can you guess the reason? Yes, she’s jealous. Women who feel jealous often withdraw instead of confronting their emotions.

Maybe your recent achievements, your relationship, or even the attention you’re getting has made her feel insecure. So, rather than celebrating your happiness, she distances herself to avoid facing her own feelings of inadequacy.

6. She Looks At You As Her Competitor.

When a woman is jealous of you, she no longer sees you as a friend—she sees you as competitor. Instead of supporting each other and celebrating wins together, it becomes a silent rivalry where everything feels like a contest.

Maybe she tries to convince she’s better through conversations, constantly mentioning her own achievements right after hearing yours. Or, if you share something good, she’ll subtly downplay it by shifting the focus to herself: “Oh, you got a promotion? That’s great, but I’ve already been working on something even bigger.”

“But Megha, isn’t it healthy competition?”

NO, it’s jealousy! She’s no longer happy for your success because she feels threatened by it. Even in situations that aren’t directly related, she’ll find ways to compare and measure herself against you, as if your achievements somehow overshadow hers.

7. She’s Always Saying that You’re Privileged.

Ever notice how she constantly brings up how “lucky” or “privileged” you are? No matter what you achieve, there’s always a comment like, “Well, of course, she got that job; her family has connections,” or “She’s only doing well because she’s privileged.”

When a woman feels jealous, she’ll often try to downplay your hard work by covering it up with privilige. It’s her way of dismissing your success, making it seem like everything fell into your lap without any real effort.

In reality, it’s easier for her to label you as “privileged” than to admit that your success comes from your talent, dedication, or perseverance. In her mind, if she can justify why you’re ahead, it’s less painful for her to deal with her own insecurities.

8. You’re Not Invited.

Does she always keep you out of her plans? She’s often organizing get-togethers of your mutual friends, and somehow, you’re never on the guest list.

Well, that could be because of jealousy.

She might exclude you from events to avoid feeling overshadowed or to make you feel less important. Or, perhaps, she may be trying to create a distance that allows her to feel more secure in their own space (if she feels insecure in your presence, obviously).

Why the Heck is She Even Jealous of Me?

Well, girl. Here’s a quick answer:

1. You’re killing it at work.
2. You have a perfect relationship.
3. You’ve got that glow-up going strong.
4. Your social media is on fire!
5. You’re making moves and chasing dreams.
6. Your have a crazy personality.
7. You’ve got some really good friends.
8. Your style is always on point.
9. You’re genuinely happy and it shows.
10. She just doesn’t mind her business.

Just think about it and pick the one that applies the best to you. (If there is any other reason, please do write it in the comments so I can include it. 😁)

How to Deal With Such Jealousy?

Here’s a quote for her:

Dear Haters, jealousy is a terrible disease. Get well soon!

So, you know what, girl? Why give a DAMN if she’s jealous of you!

Keep crushing it. Hit those goals harder. Shine even brighter.

Let her jealousy fuel your fire. Use it as proof you’re doing things right.

Don’t hold back. Push further. Achieve more. Be unapologetically awesome.

Go ahead, turn up the heat. Show her (and yourself) just how far you can go. After all, the best revenge isn’t getting even. It’s getting ahead.

Can You Stop Women From Feeling Jealous Of You?

NO YOU CAN’T! But yes, as Kris Stewart, in her TED Talk, says, “You can make them support you.” 

Curious to know how? Well, but let me tell you first, you need to put an effort into making this work. 

Kris Stewart refers to the book, “In the Company of Women- Why They Hurt Each Other, ” and suggests you create a chip pile. 

“Chip pile” is a pile of goodwill bitcoins where you do everyday small favors to the women around you. 

For example- you can interact with them in friendly ways or compliment them genuinely. The more you do small favors, the more your chip pile increases. And the more support you’ll get from your female friends.

And, as a woman, you can do this, right? 

Final Thoughts

I hope the above-given signs were helpful for you and helped you know the reality. 

And always remember the following quote whenever you come across such jealous women in your life- 

Ladies, when another woman talks bad about you for no reason at all, don’t be so quick to clap back. Pray for that woman. She sees something in you that she doesn’t see in herself. Remember, confidence is silence, and insecurity is loud.