14 Genius Tips for Dating a Busy Man (From a Busy Guy)

Let me guess. As you’re here, you’re dating a guy who’s *always* occupied. You call him; he doesn’t pick up. You plan a date night, and he always postpones it!

In short, you have a busy partner and are extremely fed up with it. Isn’t it?

So, as things are getting out of hand, you might say, “Varun, my relationship is collapsing! Can I do anything to save it?”

Yes, you can dear! In this post, I’ll share 14 brilliant tips that will help you keep love alive when your man is always busy.

But wait… who am I to share these tips with you? Well, I’m a busy guy myself who’s been in a lovely relationship since past five years. So, yes, I know how busy men like me prefer to be treated so that we can shower you with all the love and attention you deserve.

With that said, let’s begin the post.

Dating a Busy Man? These Are the 14 Secrets to Making It Work

1. See the Bigger Picture…

Have you ever thought about why your partner works so much and what’s the need? 

If you dig deep, you’ll get to know there are multiple reasons for him to work this way.  The reasons could be responsibilities, family expectations, goals, or anything else. 

Among them, you’ll definitely find a hidden motive that he wants a bright future for both of you, and he wants to have a happy family with you.

You’ll actually realize that he’s working for the betterment of both of your lives. Once you do, you’ll be able to see your relationship in a positive light.

2. Find Joy in Your Own Activities

He’s busy? It’s time for you to get busy as well.

You can work towards your goals, enjoy your hobby, catch up with your old friends, or simply relax. Just do whatever you love. It will help you get through the time with ease when your partner isn’t around. Further, you won’t feel alone and miss him as much as you do now. 

3. Be a Bit Flexible With Plans

When you are dating a busy man, it’s a wise choice to adjust the schedule as per his time considerations.

Don’t message him or call him when you know he’s busy and don’t be too rigid while planning things. For example, if he can’t afford to meet you on weekdays, opt for the weekend.

There will be times when he will have to postpone the plans likes date nights, hangouts, parties and something else. I know it hurts, but please don’t feel sad about it. He wants to spend time with you as much as you do, but he’s just helpless. 

Don’t fight with him. Instead, comfort him that it’s okay.

4. Speak Up!

If it’s been so long since you spent quality time with your partner and you’ve started losing your mind, it’s time to speak up.

Tell him how you feel. Express what’s going on within you and ask him to spend more time with you. 

You can also suggest him a few ways through which he can fit you into his daily routine. For example, you can ask him to call you for a few minutes after the lunch break or when he’s just taking a break to relax.   

Be calm, and don’t lose control. Don’t just start yelling at him. Explain it to him nicely that the relationship won’t work this way and you aren’t happy.

Try it out. He’ll surely understand. 

5. Never Ever Break His Trust

As your partner is busy, so he won’t be asking you many questions related to “Where are you going?” or “Who are you meeting.” It’s also because he blindly trusts you that you won’t ever betray him.

If you want your relationship to last forever, stay truthful and loyal to your partner. Because if you don’t, he’ll get to know the reality someday, and he won’t ever forgive you.

6. Please Don’t Over-Expect

You already know your partner is too busy, so expecting a lot of effort from his side won’t be justice, Right?

If he can’t talk to you for hours and calls you for a few minutes, it’s okay. Just look at how he’s always available for you when you need him. How he takes care of you, provides you support, comforts you, and helps you out in challenging situations.

Never ignore the things he does for you just because there’s something that he can’t.      

7. Be His Biggest Supporter

Working day and night isn’t easy, and it’s excruciating. You have to cut off from the world and focus on a single task. Sometimes, in the process, a person starts to feel lonely. But don’t let your partner feel the same.

Be with him when he’s struggling. Make him realize that you are always there for him. Provide him with the support that he needs. It will definitely strengthen your relationship.

8. Cherish the Quality Time Together

I know that both of you don’t meet often. But when you do, can’t you make every meeting memorable, even if it’s a short one?

Yes, You can!

Whenever you meet, make the best out of time. Enjoy each other’s company. Grab the opportunity to take him away from his work. Don’t fight over small things. Instead, be happy. Do crazy stuff, laugh at silly things, click pictures, and enjoy life.

The quantity of time doesn’t matter. Quality does!

9. Surprise Him Often

Everyone loves surprises! We love them even more when they are useful.

To make your partner realize that you support him in what he’s doing, surprise him with things that would be helpful for him. For example, if he creates graphics, gift him a tool that could help him make the process simple and time-effective. Otherwise, you can go with some productivity or time-management planners as well. 

10. Have Small, Yet Quality Conversations

Your partner is primarily short on time. So, it’s pretty evident that you get limited time to talk to him, Right?

Why not utilize the time to its fullest?

Whenever you talk to him, instead of telling him your daily routine that he already knows, directly hop onto the things you want him to know.

11. Don’t Exaggerate Any Conflict

Conflicts are a usual part of every healthy relationship. But, those conflicts shouldn’t stick around much longer if you have a busy partner.

Whenever you have a conflict with him, try to solve it on the same day or within a few hours. Don’t fixate onto them. If there are any misunderstandings, clear them up right away.

If you hold onto a conflict for long, it might affect your partner’s work schedule and make him feel irritated. We don’t want this to happen!

12. Be Expressive

As I’ve told you earlier, busy men are mostly inexpressive. So, if you want him to open up well with you, make sure to open up yourself.

Share everything about yourself with him, for example, your past life, past relationships, and life problems. Tell him how much you love him and appreciate his positive characteristics. 

Make him comfortable with you, and soon, you’ll see that he’ll start sharing himself and his feelings with you.

13. Take Him Out for a Nice Break

Busy men don’t realize they’re over-working and often continue to work till they experience a burn out. 

Those burnouts are incredibly frustrating and kill productivity. Your boyfriend might experience severe mood swings, yell at you, feel anxious at night, or even go through sleepless nights. 

It really becomes difficult for both partners to handle the situation. So, all you need to do is prevent burnout before it happens. What you can do is take him out for a break, maybe a trip, so that he can relax. Make him do the things that he loves. Just make sure that he’s totally away from his work.

14. When You Do Have Dates, Make Them Count!

When your guy gets the bandwidth to go on a date, and you execute the plan, how do the dates go?

Do you keep arguing and ranting about each other’s schedule and flaws, OR do you actually enjoy the date?

If it’s the former, it’s time to change things!

When you’re able to align your date night schedule, make it special. Get dressed up and look drop-dead gorgeous for him. Plan something fun and unique you’ll enjoy – maybe tickets to a show, an adventurous activity, or trying a new restaurant. 

During the date, flirt, laugh, and focus entirely on each other. No distractions allowed, no work-talks allowed. Make it feel like a night to remember.

How to Text a Busy Man? 5 Simple Tips

1. Be a Partner, Not an Owner

Ordering your busy partner to do something isn’t a good idea. He may get annoyed by such pushy messages and get frustrated.

For example, it’s better to text: “Babe! Can we have a beautiful candlelight dinner this Friday night?😍”
Instead of texting: “We’re going out for dinner this Friday night. Be ready by 8’o clock.”

2. Keep Your Texts Short and Sweet

Don’t send “long articles” as texts to a busy man as he won’t have much time to read them. Keep your messages short, crisp, and to the point. 

Also, avoid flooding his message list with tens of messages. Send him limited texts and wait for his reply.

3. Let Your Texts Show that You Care

Often, sending texts that make your boyfriend feel loved and cared for isn’t a bad idea, Right?

For example, texting “Darling! I know you’re busy throughout the day at work, but please don’t forget to have your lunch🥰” after he goes to work would make him feel really special.

Just ensure you don’t spam him with such messages throughout the day. Keep it natural.  

4. Send Him Heart-Touching Texts

Sending heart-touching messages to your boyfriend every once in a while is an amazing way to keep the bond fresh and new. It even helps your love grow forever.

An example of such beautiful messages could be: 
“Hey, Babe! Thank you for making each day of my life so joyful and special. I feel I’ve found the unicorn man I was always looking for. You are far beyond perfect, my darling💕.” 

5. Send Him Pics

Sending a few routine pictures to your boyfriend is a great idea to bring a smile to his face and make him feel close to you. The best part is that he might also start sharing his images with you in his free time.

Such a small gesture would surely improve the bond between both of you.  

End of the Line

A relationship is a two-sided game involving similar efforts from both sides. Despite being busy, if your partner is trying his best to balance the relationship, he wants the relationship to last forever. Once he gets bandwidth from his work, he’ll surely give you all the time that you need.

Till the time he gets free, just make a few adjustments, look at the positive sides of your relationship, and you’ll realize how perfect your relationship already is.

Let me know in the comments if the tips mentioned in the post helped you out on your relationship journey. Make sure to share it with your friends who have busy partner as well.

I wish you a happy and peaceful love life!