How to Become “That Girl?” (17 No-BS Tips)

Scrolling through your TikTok and suddenly getting stuck by “That Girl” videos? Carrying a stellar figure, a social media feed filled with workout reels, a quality diet plan, and everything needed to live a dream life. Isn’t that what you want? 😏 

To live like a princess, all confident and slaying in every step. Well, is it too hard to live like that? Do you need all fancy arrangements and products to live up to your glamorous expectations?

NO! All you need to do is start making little changes in your daily life and accept yourself just as you are. 

Let me break it down for you in this blog. I’ll take you through 17 realistic ways you can be that girl! Can’t wait to know more? Dig in.

What Does ‘That Girl’ Really Mean?

“That girl” isn’t just about aesthetic Instagram feeds or perfectly organized closets (though they look amazing, right?). It’s about becoming the best version of yourself!

But internet sometimes paints the picture of “that girl” as someone who:

• Wakes up at 5 AM without fail
• Always has a perfectly clean room
• Never skips a workout
• Has a crazy, productive routine
• Is super successful in life

But, in reality, being “that girl” is simply about making conscious choices that align with your personal growth. Whether you’re a morning person or a night owl, whether you love gym workouts or prefer dancing in your room, you can absolutely be “that girl” while staying true to yourself.

The whole point isn’t to transform into someone else, but to become a better version of YOU.

17 Powerful Habits to Be That Girl

1. Have a Consistent Morning Routine

A good morning routine is the key to an energetic day ahead. No, I’m not insisting you go for a sunbath every day, practice yoga, or have raw black coffee.

What I mean is getting up early, doing some stretching, having breakfast on time, checking your to-do list for the day, and going to work. 

When you start early, you finish early. You don’t need to worry about tight deadlines or reaching your office/college late due to traffic. You’re already on time. When you follow a discipline, you’ll see productive outcomes. 

2. No Electronics After Getting Up

If you have the bad habit of immediately checking your phone after getting up, it’s time to discard it. Do not use electronics for at least half an hour in the morning. 

Finish up your morning duties, have some tea, and go for a morning walk. Then, while resting, peacefully check your phone notifications. Looking at your mobile a few moments right after you open your eyes could make you anxious, irritated, and less productive throughout the day. Don’t let the temptations distract you.

3. Start Your Day With Affirmations

If you get up, start overthinking immediately, and imagine all the negative scenarios in your head, you’ll end up feeling frustrated and overwhelmed halfway through the day. 

Start with some positive thoughts and affirmations. “I can do it. I will overcome my fears.” Jot it down in your diary, and take a deep breath! Talk out whatever is inside your heart if you have someone to share with. You’ll feel relieved and relaxed.

Trust me when I say this: affirmations hold a lot of energy. 

4. Don’t Let Every Micro Reaction Bother You

Being that girl isn’t just about following a balanced routine and eating healthy. It’s also about how you handle your emotions.

See, I’ don’t want you to escape or hide your feelings. But you need to take care of who you give access to in your life. 

Don’t take every micro reaction of people to heart. Don’t let every small action implore you to analyze their behavior.

Face your emotions; cut off people who take a toll on your mental health. You have a lot of work to do. You can’t let anyone come in and mess around with your emotional well-being. 

5. Eat Healthy

A study of 140,728 people found that too much consumption of fried foods is linked with increased levels of stress and anxiety.^[1] You can’t afford that if you want to be that girl, right?

But wait… I’m not going to ask you to have just a bowl of plain oats, a simple glass of lemon water with honey, or boiled fish for your evening snacks. But you can have some delicious chicken sandwiches, excluding the cheese and mayo, right? And how about some chicken salad with veggies? 

The point here is not to consume too much oily or fried food. Of course, you can’t avoid it at a party or on special occasions, but please don’t make it a regular habit.

6. Stay Hydrated

Don’t get so caught up in living a dream life that you forget to hydrate yourself. Nothing else matters if you’re not taking care of your health. Staying energized requires drinking lots of water each day. 

From improving body composition to bettering cardiovascular health and aiding in cognitive development, studies have shown that there are ample benefits of proper intake of water every day.^[2]

So, if you want to tick all the boxes of a ‘that girl’ right, don’t forget to add at least 11 cups of water to your daily schedule. 

7. Apologize When Required

If you have made a mistake, instead of running away, own up to it. Say sorry when you’re wrong. Admit how you should have dealt with the problem differently instead of being rude. It doesn’t hurt your self-esteem at all. Instead, it points out how big of a heart you have.

Remember, you’re not preparing yourself for being a spoiled brat. You’re on a journey of self-improvement. 

8. Early to Bed…

I’m not going to give you a detailed list of the benefits of sleeping early. But if you’re staying up too late regularly, there’s no way you can wake up early the next day. That means a delay in having your breakfast, going to college, and finishing up all your work. 

Would you like to afford a complete disruption of your disciplined lifestyle? Well, you can, provided you’re no longer interested in being “That Girl.” But, if that’s still your target, you need to hang on with some stricter yet simple rules. 

9. Know the Art of Saying No!

“That girl” is the one who stands out from the crowd. Someone who is extremely kind but doesn’t mind setting boundaries for her own sake. If you’re always the giver in every relationship, it’s high time you pause.

“Oh, she has such a lovely heart!”

Well, your ‘good heart’ isn’t a classy excuse for letting people take advantage of you and surpass your boundaries every time. 

Back in college, I used to be a people-pleaser. I’d say ‘Yes, sure’ to every “Hey Mohar, can you write my assignment?” “Hey Mohar, we are coming over to your place today for party. We hope you don’t mind.”

Soon, I realized I was doing many things out of my comfort zone, and I was tired of letting people treat me like sh*t. Slowly, I started to take a stand for myself, and trust me when I say this, it felt a lot better than unnecessarily trying to fit in.

10. Have Time for Your Hobby

Living your ideal life, checking the box to be that girl, pursuing your goals is okay. But in the meantime, you can’t turn away from your interests and hobbies. It would be like forgetting your roots while living a better life. 

Take time for your hobbies. Invest in them during the weekends or when you have low work pressure. Go driving, cook your favorite dish, and hang out with friends. This will keep you relaxed and might even give you the room to innovate new ideas for your work or studies. 

11. Give Up Your Seat For Someone Who Needs It

These little gestures are what set you apart from the lot. Giving up your seat in public transport to a pregnant lady, a differently abled person or an elderly doesn’t cost much, right? That person will remember your kindness when everyone chooses to turn a blind eye. 

And you know what? When you do good and come forward to help people instead of being ignorant, you get a lovely feeling inside. A happy mind equals a happy body and a happier woman 😄.

12. Don’t Be Too Critical of Yourself

It’s natural to feel dejected when you fail a particular project or don’t get the expected outcome. But please don’t be too critical, okay? Failures are the stepping stones to success, not the end of everything! 

Being super harsh with yourself or blaming the circumstances isn’t what a strong woman would do. She would be disappointed but try to learn from her mistakes and do better on the next go. It’s all about accepting the faults, working on them, and improving.

Don’t forget, you’re on your journey to love yourself more, not for brutally criticizing at each step. 

13. Be Confident With What You Wear

There’s no doubt that what you wear has direct correlation with how you feel.

See, you don’t have to deck yourself with the perfect Barbie doll look for every outing and every place. But it’s about adoring what you’re wearing and carrying yourself elegantly. 

Whether you’re wearing a regular tracksuit or dressed in a stylish one-piece, you won’t look your best if you lack the right attitude. So, put on your smile, walk like a boss, and click as many selfies as you want. When you’re happy with yourself, you stand apart from people around you.

14. Spend Time Cleaning

What we see around ourselves has a direct effect on our emotional wellness.^[3] Would you like it if your room was always a mess? Does searching for important documents or accessories at the last minute feel good? 

Stay organized. Spend some time of the week cleaning your room, desk, or study area. Decorate with little plants if you want. The serene effect will calm your mind, too, from all the chaos going on inside. Remember what I said? A happy mind…? Fill up and comment below. 😏

15. Don’t Be Overconfident

That girl is someone who is super confident in her abilities and is always open to constructive criticism. She doesn’t feel she’s always the right one in the room. Instead, she listens to everyone and learns something from everybody.

During college, we used to have one girl who tried her best to be that girl with all her stylist looks, arrogant attitude, and whatnot! But everyone would be upset with her or simply laugh at her tactics behind her. I’m sure you wouldn’t want something like that for yourself. 

16. Don’t Pressurize Yourself

Everything has a process. You can’t start today and expect the results to be visible in an hour. You’re changing your lifestyle to something healthy and better and change takes time. 

If you can’t get up at your desired time, don’t be angry. Put in the effort; don’t snooze your alarm the moment it rings. Not today, not tomorrow? Fine. But you will be able to do it the day after tomorrow. Enjoy the process, and be patient. Patience is also a vital quality in that girl. 

17. Don’t Give Up Reading Habits

Many of us were real book nerds in childhood. As we grew older, pressure increased, and our time with books decreased. If you’re in the same boat, I feel your pain. But I’d still suggest not giving up on the reading habit. 

Some self-improvement books or novels from your favorite author could be a game-changer amidst your hectic everyday routine. A page a day is still enough. Consuming the best content from books benefits your knowledge in more ways than one. 

5 Common Pitfalls to Avoid While Being “That Girl”

Being “that girl” isn’t always sunshine and aesthetically pleasing Instagram stories. Here are some common mistakes you need to watch out for:

1. You vs. those perfect social media feeds? Don’t even go into that comparison game! Everyone’s journey is different, and those picture-perfect posts? Usually take 100 tries to get right.

2. Starting a 5 AM routine + new diet + workout plan + journaling… all on Monday? Big no-no! Take it slow, one habit at a time. Baby steps are still steps!

3. Those matching workout sets and cute planners won’t magically change your life (even though they’re super tempting!). Focus on building habits first, shopping later.

4. Being “that girl” doesn’t mean pushing yourself to exhaustion. Skip a workout, take that nap, order that pizza. It’s totally okay!

5. Missed your morning routine? Had a cheat meal? Skipped journaling? Don’t beat yourself up! Nobody’s perfect, not even “that girl”!

Wrapping Up

With that, we finish up our discussion.

There’s one really important thing that I want to tell you. Setting unrealistic expectations will burden you even more. Don’t try too hard to fit into that ‘perfect’ segment. Otherwise, it’ll be too difficult to get the awesome life you’ve been dreaming about. 

Set small targets, work consistently towards achieving them, love yourself for who you are, and put in these little efforts to build a healthier lifestyle. 

That’s it. Stick to the discipline, stay positive, and you’ll see the change happening!

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References

1. Wang, A., Wan, X., Zhuang, P., Jia, W., Ao, Y., Liu, X., Tian, Y., Zhu, L., Huang, Y., Yao, J., Wang, B., Wu, Y., Xu, Z., Wang, J., Yao, W., Jiao, J., & Zhang, Y. (2023). High fried food consumption impacts anxiety and depression due to lipid metabolism disturbance and neuroinflammation. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 120(18), e2221097120. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2221097120
2. Santhakumar, S. (2021, May 14). Benefits of drinking water in the morning. Medical News Today. Retrieved from https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/benefits-of-drinking-water-in-the-morning
3. Lindberg, S. (2021, January 7). How your environment affects your mental health. Verywell Mind. Retrieved from https://www.verywellmind.com/how-your-environment-affects-your-mental-health-5093687