13 Tips For Dating a Busy Man: The Right Way To Do It!

Dating a Busy Man Intro

Have you ever faced the situation that you called someone close to you, they didn’t pick up the phone, you expected a callback, but you never got one?

What did you do next? You called them again. They picked up the call and told you that they were BUSY, so they forgot to give you a callback.

It feels so disgusting, Right? It feels as if you are worthless and mostly ignored!

In short, things don’t generally work according to your expectations.

The bitter truth is:- The scenario mentioned above is what dating a busy man looks like! You call him, but he’s busy, so he doesn’t have time to talk. You plan a date night with him, but it mostly gets postponed.

So, Does it mean that dating a busy guy leads to a toxic relationship?

A BIG NO!
Dating a busy man could turn into a wonderful relationship that you always wanted. You can get the love, pamper, and care that you expect from your partner.

But, how?

Being a busy man myself, who’s in a lovely relationship (since the past few years), I am pretty eligible to answer all your queries. 
I can tell you exactly how we want to be treated so that we can shower you with the massive amount of love that’s hidden inside us.

Trust me. Treating a busy guy the right way could turn into the best relationship of your life.

So, without any further ado, let’s get started with this “dating a busy man guide.”

How to Know If A Busy Man Likes You?

One common trait among busy people is that they are inexpressive, and they don’t share it directly if they have feelings for you.

So, if your friend is a busy man, he might have never given it a thought if he wants to enter into a relationship or not. It is because his dreams and responsibilities kept him occupied.

Now, you might be thinking, “If he won’t tell me that he likes me, how can I know he’s interested in dating me or not?”

Well, I can help you out!

Just observe these nine signs that will help you know the busy man likes you.

1. There are Incomplete Conversations.

Whenever both of you have discussions regarding dating, past relationships, or love, the conversation ends abruptly.

It seems like he wanted to share his feelings, but he didn’t because he was shy. Both of you feel nervous, and there is an awkward silence. Soon, the topic gets changed.

2. He Values Your Opinion.

You can observe that he values your opinion equally as much as he values his opinion.

Your thoughts matter to him, and you don’t feel ignored or unheard.

He listens to you patiently and makes conclusions keeping your interests in mind. Also, he considers you competent enough to help him make big decisions in life.

3. He Understands You.

You don’t need to over-explain anything to him. 

He knows who you are, and he trusts you. So, you don’t have to provide him with justifications for anything. 
Your voice is sufficient to make him understand what you’re feeling at the moment, and he treats you accordingly.

4. He Bows Down When Needed.

Conflicts are a part of every relationship. 

So, whenever there’s an argument between both of you, he doesn’t recklessly try to prove you wrong. He knows when he’s at fault and accepts his mistake. 
Even when he’s right, he might sometimes accept that he’s wrong if it makes you feel better. He does all of it just because he likes you. 

5. He Pampers You, Takes Care of You, and Make You Feel Better.

It is a fact that women want someone to pamper them and take care of them.

If he likes you, you might observe that he pampers you and takes care of you even when he’s busy. He shows you affection and makes you feel that you are loved. Even when he’s your friend, he takes care of your demands and fulfills them.
He makes you feel amazing and worthy of having every happiness of life.    

6. He Makes Time for You.

Even when he’s working on a deadline, he manages time and ensures to take out at least a few minutes for you daily.

Both of you have regular conversations. He might spend less time with you, but the time spent is actually quality time. When he’s a bit free, he loves to spend a few hours with you.

7. He is always there for You in Time of Need.

When A Busy Man Gives You Time

Whenever you need comfort, he becomes your home. 
Whenever you are sad, he is there to make you smile. 
And whenever you want to cry, he is there to give you a shoulder.

He shows empathy and is always there for you when you need him. Even when he’s busy with his problems, he fixes yours first. You can see from his behavior that he can’t see you unhappy, and he just does anything to keep you shining bright.

8. He Protects You.

He can’t tolerate anyone saying anything wrong about you, including yourself.
He makes you feel safe when he’s around and guards you in every situation. He doesn’t let anyone hurt you in any way. 

9. He Shares Himself With You.

Busy people generally don’t prefer to share themselves with others, and they just open up to the close ones.

So, if he likes you, he might share insights from his life with you. He would talk to you even more as compared to his close friends. He might even share his family details, daily routine, and problems with you.

What to Expect When Dating a Busy Man? (Know if He’s the Right Choice for You or Not)

Until now, the signals above would have helped you realize if your friend likes you or not. 
If he does, it’s your turn to identify whether you should take a step ahead and turn this friendship into a sweet relationship.

But why do you need to think so much before dating him?

It is because dating a busy guy isn’t easy as it seems! 
It involves a lot of sacrifices and acceptance from both sides. If there’s a lack of effort from any side, the relationship might become toxic and eventually fail.

So, before you make a move, have a look at the positives and negatives of dating a busy man. They would give you an idea of what your relationship would look like in the future.

9 Bright Sides of Dating a Busy Man

  • You’ll get a lot of personal space. He won’t keep you occupied over text messages or call.
  • He will support you in achieving your dreams and won’t disturb you while working on them.
  • He’ll value your time as much as he values his own time.
  • Busy men are generally responsible. He’ll consider it as his responsibility to protect you and take care of you.
  • He’ll handle every situation maturely. Be it arguments between both of you, your mood swings, trauma, or anything else.
  • He won’t ever leave you struggling in bad times.
  • He would prefer to avoid entering into conflicts because they consume a lot of time and energy.
  • He won’t waste time creating misconceptions about you. He’ll clear things up straight away.
  • There would be no relationship obsession.

9 Dark Sides of Dating a Busy Man

9 Dark Sides of Dating a Busy Man that Works A Lot
  • You’ll have to accept that his #1 priority would be you, his family, and his work. NOT ONLY YOU!
  • You’ll have to fit yourself according to his schedule as he won’t always be available.
  • He will take a lot of time getting comfortable upto the extent that he could start sharing his deep secrets with you. 
  • You’ll have to be patient while dealing with him. He might experience a lot of highs and lows.
  • He’ll be stressed, frustrated, and anxious a lot of days. You’ll have to support him well at those moments.
  • He can be inexpressive sometimes. You’ll have to make a few intelligent guesses to understand his feelings.
  • He would require personal space more often because he would be busy figuring out his life.
  • Busy people work in silence, making them fall in love with the silent atmosphere. So, he would be more of a listener than a speaker. In case of an argument between both of you, he might prefer to be silent, which could be sometimes frustrating for you.
  • You’ll often find him lost in his own thoughts. When he does, he might suddenly stop listening to you.

If you accept both sides of the relationship happily, you are good to enter into a relationship with that guy.

13 Tips for Dating a Busy Man: How To Deal With A Guy Who is Always on the Go?

Once you’ve started dating a busy man, it’s time for you to know how to make your relationship bloom. 

So, here are 13 tips you can apply to have a successful & everlasting love life.

1. Understand Why He’s Busy.

Have you ever thought about why your partner works so much and what’s the need? 

If you dig deep, you’ll get to know there are multiple reasons for him to work this way. 

The reasons could be responsibilities, family expectations, goals, or anything else. 
Among them, you’ll find a hidden motive that he wants a bright future for both of you, and he wants to have a happy family with you.

You need to realize that he’s working for the betterment of both of your lives. Once you do, you’ll be able to see your relationship in a positive light. 

2. Make Adjustments According to His Schedule.

When you’re dating a busy man, it’s a wise choice to adjust the schedule as per his time considerations.

Don’t message him or call him when you know he’s busy. 
Don’t be too rigid while planning up things. For example, If he can’t afford to meet you on weekdays, opt for the weekend.

There will be times when he will have to postpone some events, such as date nights, movies, trips, or anything else.

Please don’t feel sad about it.

He wants to spend time with you as much as you do, but he’s just helpless. 
Don’t have fights with him. Instead, comfort him that it’s okay.

3. Speak Up.

When you feel it’s been so long that you spent quality time with your partner and you’ve started losing your mind, it’s time to speak up.

Tell him how you feel. Express what’s going on within you. Ask him to spend more time with you. 

You can also suggest a few ways he can fit you in his daily routine. For example, tell him to call you for a few minutes after the lunch break or when he’s just taking a break to relax.   

Be calm and don’t lose control. Don’t just start yelling at him. Explain to him nicely that the relationship won’t work this way and you aren’t happy.

Try it out. He’ll surely understand.

4. Stay Occupied.

Dating A Busy Man

You know that your partner is busy. So, It’s time for you to get busy as well.

You can work towards your goals, enjoy your hobby, catch up with your old friends, or simply relax. Just do whatever you love.

It will help you get through the time with ease when your partner isn’t around. Further, you won’t feel alone and miss him as much as you do now. 

Time will pass, and you won’t even notice.    

5. Never Break His Trust.

Higher chances are that your partner is busy, so he won’t be asking you many questions related to “where are you going” or “who are you meeting.”
It is also because he blindly trusts you that you won’t ever betray him.

If you want your relationship to last forever, stay truthful and loyal to your partner. Because if you don’t, he’ll get to know the reality someday, and he won’t ever forgive you.

6. Don’t Over-Expect.

You already know your partner is too busy, so expecting a lot of effort from his side won’t be justice, Right?

If he can’t talk to you for hours and calls you for a few minutes, it’s okay. Just look at how he’s always available for you when you need him. How he takes care of you, provides you support, comforts you, and helps you out in challenging situations.

Never ignore multiple positives because of a single flaw.      

7. Don’t Let Him Struggle Alone.

Working day and night isn’t easy, and it’s excruciating. You have to cut off from the world and focus on a single task.

Sometimes, in the process, a person starts to feel lonely. But don’t let your partner feel the same.
Be with him when he’s struggling. Make him realize that you are always there for him. Provide him with the support that he needs.

It will definitely strengthen your relationship.

8. Have the Best Time Together.

I know that both of you don’t meet often. But when you do, can’t you make every meeting memorable, even if it’s a short one?

Yes, You can!

Whenever you meet, make the best out of time. Enjoy each other’s company. Grab the opportunity to take him away from his work.
Don’t fight over small things. Instead, be happy. Do crazy stuff, laugh at silly things, click pictures, and enjoy life.

Quantity of time doesn’t matter. Quality does!

9. Surprise Him Often.

How To Deal With A Busy Boyfriend

Everyone loves surprises! We love them, even more, when they are useful.

To make your partner realize that you support him in what he’s doing, surprise him with things that would be helpful for him. 
For example, if he’s busy creating graphics, gift him a tool that could help him make the process simple and time-effective. Else, you can go with productivity or time-management planners as well. 

10. Have Small But Quality Conversations.

Your partner is primarily short on time. So, it’s pretty evident that you get limited time to talk to him, Right?

Why not utilize the time to its fullest?

Whenever you talk to your partner, instead of telling him your daily routine that he already knows, directly hop onto the things you want him to know.  

In simple words, declutter the shit.

11. Don’t Exaggerate Any Conflict.

Conflicts are regular in any relationship. But, when you are dating a busy man, they shouldn’t continue for long.

Whenever you have a conflict with your busy partner, try to solve it on the same day or within a few hours. Don’t hold onto it for long.
If there are any misunderstandings, clear them up right away.

If you hold onto a conflict for long, it might affect your partner’s work schedule and make him feel irritated. It’s something that we don’t want.

12. Be Expressive.

As I’ve told you earlier, busy men are mostly inexpressive. So, if you want him to open up well with you, make sure to open up yourself.

Share everything about yourself with him, for example, your past life, past relationships, and life problems. Tell him how much you love him and appreciate his positive characteristics. 

Make him comfortable with you, and soon, you’ll see that he’ll start sharing himself and his feelings with you.

13. Take Him Out for a Break.

When you’re dating a busy man, he might not realize that he needs a break. 

He’ll continue to work until he gets burnout.

In reality, those burnouts are incredibly frustrating and kill productivity. He might even go through severe mood swings, yell at you, feel anxious at night, or even go through sleepless nights. 

It really becomes difficult for both the partners to handle the situation.

So, all you need to do is prevent burnout before it happens. What you can do is take him out for a break, maybe a trip, so that he can relax. Make him do the things that he loves. 

Just make sure that he’s totally isolated from his work.

End of the Line

A relationship is a two-sided game involving similar efforts from both sides.
Despite being busy, if your partner is trying his best to balance the relationship, he wants the relationship to last forever. Once he gets bandwidth from his work, he’ll surely give you all the time that you need.

Till the time he gets free, just make a few adjustments, look at the positive sides of your relationship, and you’ll realize how perfect your relationship already is.

Let me know in the comments if the tips mentioned in the post helped you out on your relationship journey. Make sure to share it with your friends who are dating a busy partner as well.

I wish you a happy and peaceful love life!

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34 Comments

  1. This was so helpful. I’m in a relationship with a man who is busy with work, kids, and a dog. Today, I had a meltdown about how unavailable he seemed, but then I found this piece. This was so helpful.

    I see his effort. He makes such great effort and he has made time for me in his life. I see the sacrifices and feel his care. We may not be able to vacation until Fall but he’s worth it.

    Thank you.

    1. Hi SmizChi,
      I truly want to remark that your lover is blessed to have such an understanding lady in his life. I wish you an astonishing love life ahead.

      Also, Thanks a lot for your comment. It really means a lot.

  2. I 100% agree with this write up and it really helped. I recently started dating a busy man about a month ago. I wanted to give up coz i am doing most of the calling and not all the times he pick. But with the signs listed here i feel he loves me. The few days i have spent with him is better than the three years of my past relationship. The little time he gives me the 60 second call we make feels relaxing. And he always apologise for not givin me the time i deserve . Even tho i m not happy i assure him its fine i understand. He barely even have time to eat. I do text him most time but he doesnt reply and i wanted to stop but on seeing this post i wont give up on him.

    1. I am glad the post enlightened you Princessa!

      It is clear from your comment that your man is undoubtedly extremely busy as he doesn’t even get time to eat. I can firmly remark the day is not far when he’ll be able to give you the time you deserve and you won’t regret holding onto the relationship.
      I hope his hard work pays off really soon.

      Thanks for your comment and all the best for your relationship journey, Dear.

  3. I’ve been dating a very busy man for the past three months.
    I must confess I’ve been on a roller coaster when it comes to the feelings part. Especially given we’re in different cities.😭
    When we’re together it’s amazing and when I get back to my city or he to his sometimes when he’s not available I feel frustrated that I text him and he doesn’t text me back.
    I know for sure he’s a workaholic cause sometimes when I’m in his city he has to be a send for work and doesn’t even get time to eat sometimes.
    And I’m grateful I caught this article I’ll try and be more lenient with him. As I’ve been some sort of a pain in the ass to him sometimes when I get frustrated and I recall especially last weekend when we were together and he had to be away for work and I told him I was going back to my city given he has no time for me, he asked me what he had to do to show me I mattered to him that he’s trying his best and is not making himself unavailable un purpose and that I should try and understand him. I do try but I must confess it’s hard at times. Thanks for the tips I’ll implement them and try and keep my cool with him. He deserves better

    1. Thanks for your comment, Priya.

      I know it’s disgusting for a girl when her guy can’t spend much time with her.

      It isn’t that he doesn’t want to give you time. But, it’s just that he can’t give you much time at the “present moment.”
      One thing is for sure, one day, he’ll give you all the time, care, and support you expect from his side.

      I wish the day comes soon!

  4. Good information. I’ve been dating busy man for about a year. I’ve learned a lot over the year and we’re only getting stronger together. . I don’t call him during the day unless it’s important, and he’s gotten good about calling me, usually in the evening when his day is done. And sometimes during the day when he has a minute. When we can’t get together, those phone calls keep us connected. I’ve learned to be patient and trust him, keep myself busy, and I appreciate the time he makes for me. And I know he’s doing his best.

  5. Weeel, Im thinking. What’s most important? A human person or a Job? 🤷‍♀️ I think the “busy guy”, should be busy treating the releationship that is most important to him, as it where most important to him. So, work or the person you are gonna spend the rest of your life with? If someone are gonna spend the rest of their life with you, dont they desirve more than you give to Your work?

    1. Hi Selena,

      At times its job and at times it’s you! You need to understand that only a relationship won’t earn you a living. You actually need money to survive and without honestly working at a job today, you can’t bear your expenses tomorrow (Talking about the inflation here).

      Coming onto the next point, Undoubtedly a partner deserves a lot but there are times when the work has to be prioritized to improve lifestyle and achieve success. The other person is working not just for him, but he’s working for both of you!

      Trust me. Nobody wants to work day and night just because they love working. Your guy also wants to enjoy and chill out in life. However, sometimes it isn’t the best choice in the long run.

      Just once, sit calmly with him for a while and truly understand his reasons why he’s pushing so hard. Don’t let the conversation divert somewhere else. You might hear the deep reasons you’ve never heard before!

      1. Well, but my message was not about someone who actually manges a good balance. Mabye you do, thats amazeing. But, most “busy” men do not. I am a “busy” woman. But I know whats most important. And no, its not the money. You got enough, then you got enough.

        1. Hi Selena,

          Then it may be nothing else but ineffective time management or priority management. Maybe, He became so obsessed with his work that he forgot there was nothing else in his life. Try talking it out and let me know how the conversation goes (if you’re comfortable!).

        2. I have been in a relationship with a busy man . Like i would say he is fun to be with , open minded, great person. In summary he is every woman dream man. When we are together he makes me feel like the love is too perfect or its a fairy tail or something. although he is a super busy person, i have seen that myself. We are in different towns and when he is away i feel the opposite of the relationship. He hardly calls or text . I do most of the calling and the only time he manage to call it’s 2am or 1am . He doesn’t chat much and sometimes leave my msg on seen it hurts so bad but anytime he is free I really enjoy his company but he hardly gets free . I start giving up on the relationship and all that. For five days i refused to call him because i was fed up and trust me he hasn’t called or text since that day. This dude is supposed to be the man i am getting married to i love him wholeheartedly when we re together i feel he loves me too but when we are apart if feels the other way ,coz he is busy. Thanks to this article tho . Because those 9 signs you mentioned he does every single one of them but you know we ladies want attention. I am faithful to him but sometimes carried away by talking to other guys who give me attention. I am scared i dont want to loose him coz i love him

          1. Hi Bae Ezzah!

            I know it very well that ladies love attention and it’s obvious for you to feel irritated. There’s nothing wrong on your part.

            However, if you want your fairy tale relationship to be a part of your life forever, you need to stay loyal to him!

            If you already know he’s perfect for you, there’s no sense in getting inclined to other guys just because they give you attention. You might spend your free time with them, but giving up on your present relationship doesn’t seem to be a good idea.

            Another point to be noted is that they may be giving you extra attention right now just to slide into the crack and become a part of your life. Once they’ll enter your life, you might see flaws in them too (no one’s perfect).
            What will you do in such a situation? Will you give up on them too?
            Obviously, not!

            The same applies to your current relationship. It won’t always be perfect. You will have to find ways to make it work.

            Trust me. Time will come when your partner will be busier with you than his work. Just be patient!
            Giving up right now would only fill you with regrets later!

  6. Am actually dating a student and we’re both in med school we’ve been dating for quite some time now but it seems like he’s the most busiest person . Despite us being in the same school I rarely see him and if I do it’s only for short while, I love him alot but the whole thing is just frustrating
    And I miss him alot.What do I do, give him space or just be more busier than him?

    1. Hi Peggy,

      In my opinion, once you’ll get busy, you’ll automatically give him space. Now busyness doesn’t actually mean that you compete with them in terms of who’s busier. It’s just a tool for you to keep yourself engaged and prevent obsessing over your guy’s thoughts.

      I would suggest you to stay active with your conversations and interactions as usual. Since you’ve been dating for some time, I think you’re already aware of when your guy’s free. You can also choose to be free at that time.

      Also, whenever you miss him so much that things get out of control, drop him a text (which would relax you out because you’ve expressed yourself) and ask him to call you whenever he’s free.

      Let me know if it helps!

  7. This article meant everything to me. I am in a long distance relationship with a busy man so it is very frustrating at times. This article made me realize that he is so worth it so I thank you so much for this. I’m going to make an effort to be more patient and understanding with him.

  8. Good day I really love your article! I have been dating this busy guy for like 4 months now, it’s really frustrating that he doesn’t always have my time, he doesn’t return calls but I think he prefers text and sometimes he doesn’t reply my text until next day or cancels our plan of seeing 😢 it’s makes me wanna give up! But whenever I remember him thanking me for being patient and caring, or the few times we spent together my heart melts! I really love him soo much and promised not to give up!

    1. That’s the spirit, Chisom! I am glad to know that you’re holding onto your relationship pretty well.

      I wish your relationship becomes super successful in the future.

  9. Love your article! Really needed this right now as I go through a challenging / new stage in my life with my new busy boyfriend of 4 months. He is 40 and I am 29. We have completely different life’s and he’s currently going through a divorce and has a high profile busy job.

    My question – how do you grow as a couple when they are always busy? Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

    1. Hi Geo,

      The question you’ve just asked requires a detailed answer which isn’t possible in the comments section. However, I’ll soon update the post just for you and add the answer to your question. Till then, stay connected!

  10. This is exactly what I’ve been looking for and am so glad I came upon this site. Most sites just talk about leaving etc but I’m glad you have opened my eyes.

    1. Anyone can run away from a relationship. But it takes patience, sacrifices, and resilience to nurture it.

      I know you’re strong and you’ll make your relationship super successful!

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