13 Tips For Dating a Busy Man: The Right Way To Do It!

Dating a Busy Man Intro

Have you ever faced the situation that you called someone close to you, they didn’t pick up the phone, you expected a callback, but you never got one?

What did you do next? You called them again. They picked up the call and told you that they were BUSY, so they forgot to give you a callback.

It feels so disgusting, Right? It feels as if you are worthless and mostly ignored!

In short, things don’t generally work according to your expectations.

The bitter truth is:- The scenario mentioned above is what dating a busy man looks like! You call him, but he’s busy, so he doesn’t have time to talk. You plan a date night with him, but it mostly gets postponed.

So, Does it mean that dating a busy guy leads to a toxic relationship?

Dating a busy man could turn into the wonderful relationship that you always wanted. You can get the love, pamper, and care that you expect from your partner.

But, how?

Being a busy man myself, who’s in a lovely relationship (since the past few years), I am pretty eligible to answer all your queries. 
I can tell you exactly how we want to be treated so that we can shower you with the massive amount of love that’s hidden inside us.

Trust me. Treating a busy guy the right way could turn into the best relationship of your life.

So, without any further ado, let’s get started with this “dating a busy man guide.”

9 Clear Signs a Busy Man Likes You

One common trait among busy people is that they are inexpressive, and they don’t share it directly if they have feelings for you.

So, if your friend is a busy man, he might have never given it a thought if he wants to enter into a relationship or not. It is because his dreams and responsibilities kept him occupied.

Now, you might be thinking, “If he won’t tell me that he likes me, how can I know he’s interested in dating me or not?”

Well, I can help you out!

Just observe these nine signs that will help you know the busy man likes you.

1. There are Incomplete Conversations.

Whenever both of you have discussions regarding dating, past relationships, or love, the conversation ends abruptly.

It seems like he wanted to share his feelings, but he didn’t because he was shy. Both of you feel nervous, and there is an awkward silence. Soon, the topic gets changed.

2. He Values Your Opinion.

You can observe that he values your opinion equally as much as he values his opinion.

Your thoughts matter to him, and you don’t feel ignored or unheard.

He listens to you patiently and makes conclusions keeping your interests in mind. Also, he considers you competent enough to help him make big decisions in life.

3. He Understands You.

One of the most vital signs a busy man likes you is that you don’t need to over-explain anything to him.  

He knows who you are, and he trusts you. So, you don’t have to provide him with justifications for anything. 
Your voice is sufficient to make him understand what you’re feeling at the moment, and he treats you accordingly.

4. He Bows Down When Needed.

Conflicts are a part of every relationship. 

So, whenever there’s an argument between both of you, he doesn’t recklessly try to prove you wrong. He knows when he’s at fault and accepts his mistake. 
Even when he’s right, he might sometimes accept that he’s wrong if it makes you feel better. He does all of it just because he likes you. 

5. He Pampers You, Takes Care of You, and Make You Feel Better.

It is a fact that women want someone to pamper them and take care of them.

If he likes you, you might observe that he pampers you and takes care of you even when he’s busy. He shows you affection and makes you feel that you are loved. Even when he’s your friend, he takes care of your demands and fulfills them.
He makes you feel amazing and worthy of having every happiness of life.    

6. He Makes Time for You.

Even when he’s working on a deadline, he manages time and ensures to take out at least a few minutes for you daily.

Both of you have regular conversations. He might spend less time with you, but the time spent is actually quality time. When he’s a bit free, he loves to spend a few hours with you.

7. He is always there for You in Time of Need.

When A Busy Man Gives You Time

Whenever you need comfort, he becomes your home. 
Whenever you are sad, he is there to make you smile. 
And whenever you want to cry, he is there to give you a shoulder.

He shows empathy and is always there for you when you need him. Even when he’s busy with his problems, he fixes yours first. You can see from his behavior that he can’t see you unhappy, and he just does anything to keep you shining bright.

8. He Protects You.

One of the sweetest signs to know a busy man likes you is that he doesn’t tolerate anyone saying anything wrong about you, including yourself.
He makes you feel safe when he’s around and guards you in every situation. He doesn’t let anyone hurt you in any way. 

9. He Shares Himself With You.

Busy people generally don’t prefer to share themselves with others, and they just open up to their close ones.

So, if he likes you, he might share insights from his life with you. He would talk to you even more as compared to his close friends. He might even share his family details, daily routine, and problems with you.

What to Expect When Dating a Busy Man? (Know if He’s the Right Choice for You or Not)

Until now, the signals above would have helped you realize if your friend likes you or not. 
If he does, it’s your turn to identify whether you should take a step ahead and turn this friendship into a sweet relationship.

But why do you need to think so much before dating him?

It is because dating a busy guy isn’t easy as it seems! 
It involves a lot of sacrifices and acceptance from both sides. If there’s a lack of effort from any side, the relationship might become toxic and eventually fail.

So, before you make a move, have a look at the positives and negatives of dating a busy man. They would give you an idea of what your relationship would look like in the future.

9 Bright Sides of Dating a Busy Man

  • You’ll get a lot of personal space. He won’t keep you occupied over text messages or call.
  • He will support you in achieving your dreams and won’t disturb you while working on them.
  • He’ll value your time as much as he values his own time.
  • Busy men are generally responsible. He’ll consider it his responsibility to protect you and take care of you.
  • He’ll handle every situation maturely. Be it arguments between both of you, your mood swings, trauma, or anything else.
  • He won’t ever leave you struggling in bad times.
  • He would prefer to avoid entering into conflicts because they consume a lot of time and energy.
  • He won’t waste time creating misconceptions about you. He’ll clear things up straight away.
  • There would be no relationship obsession.

9 Dark Sides of Dating a Busy Man

9 Dark Sides of Dating a Busy Man that Works A Lot
  • You’ll have to accept that his #1 priority would be you, his family, and his work. NOT ONLY YOU!
  • You’ll have to fit yourself according to his schedule as he won’t always be available.
  • He will take a lot of time to get comfortable upto the extent that he could start sharing his deep secrets with you. 
  • You’ll have to be patient while dealing with him. He might experience a lot of highs and lows.
  • He’ll be stressed, frustrated, and anxious a lot of days. You’ll have to support him well at those moments.
  • He can be inexpressive sometimes. You’ll have to make a few intelligent guesses to understand his feelings.
  • He would require personal space more often because he would be busy figuring out his life.
  • Busy people work in silence, making them fall in love with the silent atmosphere. So, he would be more of a listener than a speaker. In case of an argument between both of you, he might prefer to be silent, which could be sometimes frustrating for you.
  • You’ll often find him lost in his own thoughts. When he does, he might suddenly stop listening to you.

If you accept both sides of the relationship happily, you are good to enter into a relationship with that guy.

13 Tips for Dating a Busy Man: How To Deal With A Guy Who is Always on the Go?

Once you’ve started dating a busy man, it’s time for you to know how to make your relationship bloom. 

So, here are 13 tips you can apply to have a successful & everlasting love life. You can apply these dating tips even when you’re in a long-distance relationship with a busy man.

1. Understand Why He’s Busy.

Have you ever thought about why your partner works so much and what’s the need? 

If you dig deep, you’ll get to know there are multiple reasons for him to work this way. 

The reasons could be responsibilities, family expectations, goals, or anything else. 
Among them, you’ll find a hidden motive that he wants a bright future for both of you, and he wants to have a happy family with you.

You need to realize that he’s working for the betterment of both of your lives. Once you do, you’ll be able to see your relationship in a positive light. 

2. Make Adjustments According to His Schedule.

When you’re dating a busy man, it’s a wise choice to adjust the schedule as per his time considerations.

Don’t message him or call him when you know he’s busy. 
Don’t be too rigid while planning things. For example, If he can’t afford to meet you on weekdays, opt for the weekend.

There will be times when he will have to postpone some events, such as date nights, movies, trips, or anything else.

I know it will hurt especially when you’re in a long-distance relationship. But, please don’t feel sad about it.

He wants to spend time with you as much as you do, but he’s just helpless. 
Don’t have fights with him. Instead, comfort him that it’s okay.

3. Speak Up.

When you feel it’s been so long since you spent quality time with your partner and you’ve started losing your mind, it’s time to speak up.

Tell him how you feel. Express what’s going on within you. Ask him to spend more time with you. 

You can also suggest a few ways he can fit you into his daily routine. For example, tell him to call you for a few minutes after the lunch break or when he’s just taking a break to relax.   

Be calm and don’t lose control. Don’t just start yelling at him. Explain to him nicely that the relationship won’t work this way and you aren’t happy.

Try it out. He’ll surely understand.

4. Stay Occupied.

Dating A Busy Man

You know that your partner is busy. So, It’s time for you to get busy as well.

You can work towards your goals, enjoy your hobby, catch up with your old friends, or simply relax. Just do whatever you love.

It will help you get through the time with ease when your partner isn’t around. Further, you won’t feel alone and miss him as much as you do now. 

Time will pass, and you won’t even notice.    

5. Never Break His Trust.

Higher chances are that your partner is busy, so he won’t be asking you many questions related to “where are you going” or “who are you meeting.”
It is also because he blindly trusts you that you won’t ever betray him.

If you want your relationship to last forever, stay truthful and loyal to your partner. Because if you don’t, he’ll get to know the reality someday, and he won’t ever forgive you.

6. Don’t Over-Expect.

You already know your partner is too busy, so expecting a lot of effort from his side won’t be justice, Right?

If he can’t talk to you for hours and calls you for a few minutes, it’s okay. Just look at how he’s always available for you when you need him. How he takes care of you, provides you support, comforts you, and helps you out in challenging situations.

Never ignore multiple positives because of a single flaw.      

7. Don’t Let Him Struggle Alone.

Working day and night isn’t easy, and it’s excruciating. You have to cut off from the world and focus on a single task.

Sometimes, in the process, a person starts to feel lonely. But don’t let your partner feel the same.
Be with him when he’s struggling. Make him realize that you are always there for him. Provide him with the support that he needs.

It will definitely strengthen your relationship.

8. Have the Best Time Together.

I know that both of you don’t meet often. But when you do, can’t you make every meeting memorable, even if it’s a short one?

Yes, You can!

Whenever you meet, make the best out of time. Enjoy each other’s company. Grab the opportunity to take him away from his work.
Don’t fight over small things. Instead, be happy. Do crazy stuff, laugh at silly things, click pictures, and enjoy life.

Quantity of time doesn’t matter. Quality does!

9. Surprise Him Often.

How To Deal With A Busy Boyfriend

Everyone loves surprises! We love them, even more, when they are useful.

To make your partner realize that you support him in what he’s doing, surprise him with things that would be helpful for him. 
For example, if he’s busy creating graphics, gift him a tool that could help him make the process simple and time-effective. Else, you can go with productivity or time-management planners as well. 

10. Have Small But Quality Conversations.

Your partner is primarily short on time. So, it’s pretty evident that you get limited time to talk to him, Right?

Why not utilize the time to its fullest?

Whenever you talk to your partner, instead of telling him your daily routine that he already knows, directly hop onto the things you want him to know.  

In simple words, declutter the shit.

11. Don’t Exaggerate Any Conflict.

Conflicts are regular in any relationship. But, when you are dating a busy man, they shouldn’t continue for long.

Whenever you have a conflict with your busy partner, try to solve it on the same day or within a few hours. Don’t hold onto it for long.
If there are any misunderstandings, clear them up right away.

If you hold onto a conflict for long, it might affect your partner’s work schedule and make him feel irritated. It’s something that we don’t want.

12. Be Expressive.

As I’ve told you earlier, busy men are mostly inexpressive. So, if you want him to open up well with you, make sure to open up yourself.

Share everything about yourself with him, for example, your past life, past relationships, and life problems. Tell him how much you love him and appreciate his positive characteristics. 

Make him comfortable with you, and soon, you’ll see that he’ll start sharing himself and his feelings with you.

13. Take Him Out for a Break.

When you’re dating a busy man, he might not realize that he needs a break. 

He’ll continue to work until he gets burnout.

In reality, those burnouts are incredibly frustrating and kill productivity. He might even go through severe mood swings, yell at you, feel anxious at night, or even go through sleepless nights. 

It really becomes difficult for both partners to handle the situation.

So, all you need to do is prevent burnout before it happens. What you can do is take him out for a break, maybe a trip, so that he can relax. Make him do the things that he loves. 

Just make sure that he’s totally isolated from his work.

How To Text a Busy Man?

How to text a busy man

1. Be a Partner, Not an Owner.

Ordering your busy boyfriend to do something isn’t a good idea. He may get annoyed by such pushy messages and get frustrated.

For example, it’s better to text: “Babe! Can we have a beautiful candlelight dinner this Friday night?😍”
Instead of texting: “We’re going out for dinner this Friday night. Be ready by 8’o clock.”

2. Keep Your Texts Short and Sweet.

Don’t send “long articles” as texts to a busy man as he won’t have much time to read them. Keep your messages short, crisp, and to the point. 

Also, avoid flooding his message list with tens of messages. Send him limited texts and wait for his reply.

3. Let Your Texts Show that You Care.

Often sending texts that make your boyfriend feel loved and cared for isn’t a bad idea, Right?

For example, texting “Darling! I know you’re busy throughout the day at work, but please don’t forget to have your lunch🥰” after he goes to work would make him feel really special.

Just ensure you don’t spam him with such messages throughout the day. Keep it natural.  

4. Send Him Heart-Touching Texts.

Sending heart-touching messages to your boyfriend every once in a while is an amazing way to keep the bond fresh and new. It even helps your love grow forever.

An example of such beautiful messages could be: 
“Hey, Babe! Thank you for making each day of my life so joyful and special. I feel I’ve found the unicorn man I was always looking for. You are far beyond perfect, my darling💕.” 

5. Send Him Pics.

Sending a few routine pictures to your boyfriend is a great idea to bring a smile to his face and make him feel close to you. The best part is that he might also start sharing his images with you in his free time.

Such a small gesture would surely improve the bond between both of you.  

How To Keep a Busy Man Interested in You? (Always)

How to keep a busy man interested in you

Because you don’t get much of your boyfriend’s time, you might get this question sometimes:-“Will he lose interest in me or our relationship?”

Honestly, it shouldn’t happen because he knows he’s the one who’s often unavailable, not you.

Still, if you feel there’s a spark missing between you and him, these are the seven tips to help you keep a busy man interested:-

1. Don’t Overcriticize Him.

Expressing yourself that you miss him too much in a calm way is absolutely fine. 

However, if you always argue and fight with him over the topic that “he doesn’t make time for you,” he would begin feeling that despite his explanations, you don’t understand why he’s busy. 

Thus, he might feel that both of you are miles apart and start losing interest in you (which you don’t want).

2. Appreciate Him Often.

No one in this world doesn’t love to be appreciated.

Appreciate your boyfriend for the amount of work he puts in every day. Tell him that you feel inspired by his work ethic, dedication, and consistency.

All your uplifting words will make him feel that there’s at least someone who truly understands him. Further, he won’t be able to imagine himself without you, your love, and your support.

3. Express Love, But Don’t Be Clingy.

Every guy behaves differently in a relationship. 

Some guys don’t even hold their partner’s hand in public, while others kiss their partner without any hesitation. Busy men are generally introverted and fall in the first category, but it doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners.

If your guy feels awkward displaying affection in public, don’t force him to do so.

Don’t send him 27 messages if you know he’s super busy. Else, you would end up annoying him rather than making him feel loved.

4. Don’t Create a Scene Out of Insignificant Issues.

Conflicts and disagreements are normal in a relationship. But if they’re too frequent, they become annoying and intolerable.

Don’t create a big scene out of minute issues that your boyfriend thinks about those issues all day long and gets distracted from work. For example, if he replied to your message 10 minutes late, don’t start yelling or fighting with him. Else, he’ll get frustrated and start losing interest in you.

Ignore such problems and try to be patient in such situations. 

5. Radiate Positivity

Everyone loves to have positive people around them, Right? 

When you talk to your busy partner, try to lighten his (and yours) mood through positive conversations. Tell him how happy you’re in life and how smoothly you’re sailing through it. Share positive events from your routine.

However, It doesn’t mean you can’t share your problems or sad feelings with him! Just don’t keep ranting (always) about the negative stuff.

6. Let Your Personality Shine.

I know you’ve got a stunning personality. Why not let it shine?

You know very well how confident, independent, and bold you are. Show your true personality and qualities to your boyfriend. Let him realize how precious you are, and there’s no one better for you.

Your powerful personality won’t let him ever feel non-interested in you.

7. Be Mysterious. 

Don’t tell your boyfriend everything about your personality. Let a few things unfold with time. Give him the time to observe you and make conclusions by himself.

It would help maintain curiosity in your boyfriend, and he’ll be even more interested in you.

9 Deep & Meaningful Dating a Busy Man Quotes

1. You can either build with a busy man or babysit a broke one.

2. A real woman can handle a busy man. She’ll respect his hustle. And if he’s a real man, he’ll know how to make time for her.

3. Date a man who’s busy building his own empire, not who’s busy ruining the inherited one.

Dating a busy man quote - "Date a man who's busy building his own empire, not who's busy ruining the inherited one."

4. A busy man might not spend plenty of time with you. But he can spend plenty of “quality” time with you.

5. Falling in love with a busy man is easy, but it’s actually hard to make it grow.

6. Respect a man’s time, and he’ll respect yours.

7. If you don’t want a broke man, you’re gonna have to put up with a busy man.

8. Dating a busy man is like a throuple where the third partner is “his work.”

Quote about dating a busy man - "Date a man who's busy building his own empire, not who's busy ruining the inherited one."

9. Dating a busy, purpose-driven, and responsible man is much better than dating a free, purposeless, and immature guy.   

End of the Line

A relationship is a two-sided game involving similar efforts from both sides.
Despite being busy, if your partner is trying his best to balance the relationship, he wants the relationship to last forever. Once he gets bandwidth from his work, he’ll surely give you all the time that you need.

Till the time he gets free, just make a few adjustments, look at the positive sides of your relationship, and you’ll realize how perfect your relationship already is.

Let me know in the comments if the tips mentioned in the post helped you out on your relationship journey. Make sure to share it with your friends who are dating a busy partner as well.

I wish you a happy and peaceful love life!




        1. This finds really very helpful to me since I’m dating a busy man, i sometimes developed negative feelings. But this message really helps me alot.
          Thank you😊

  1. This was so helpful. I’m in a relationship with a man who is busy with work, kids, and a dog. Today, I had a meltdown about how unavailable he seemed, but then I found this piece. This was so helpful.

    I see his effort. He makes such great effort and he has made time for me in his life. I see the sacrifices and feel his care. We may not be able to vacation until Fall but he’s worth it.

    Thank you.

    1. Hi SmizChi,
      I truly want to remark that your lover is blessed to have such an understanding lady in his life. I wish you an astonishing love life ahead.

      Also, Thanks a lot for your comment. It really means a lot.

  2. I 100% agree with this write up and it really helped. I recently started dating a busy man about a month ago. I wanted to give up coz i am doing most of the calling and not all the times he pick. But with the signs listed here i feel he loves me. The few days i have spent with him is better than the three years of my past relationship. The little time he gives me the 60 second call we make feels relaxing. And he always apologise for not givin me the time i deserve . Even tho i m not happy i assure him its fine i understand. He barely even have time to eat. I do text him most time but he doesnt reply and i wanted to stop but on seeing this post i wont give up on him.

    1. I am glad the post enlightened you Princessa!

      It is clear from your comment that your man is undoubtedly extremely busy as he doesn’t even get time to eat. I can firmly remark the day is not far when he’ll be able to give you the time you deserve and you won’t regret holding onto the relationship.
      I hope his hard work pays off really soon.

      Thanks for your comment and all the best for your relationship journey, Dear.

  3. I’ve been dating a very busy man for the past three months.
    I must confess I’ve been on a roller coaster when it comes to the feelings part. Especially given we’re in different cities.😭
    When we’re together it’s amazing and when I get back to my city or he to his sometimes when he’s not available I feel frustrated that I text him and he doesn’t text me back.
    I know for sure he’s a workaholic cause sometimes when I’m in his city he has to be a send for work and doesn’t even get time to eat sometimes.
    And I’m grateful I caught this article I’ll try and be more lenient with him. As I’ve been some sort of a pain in the ass to him sometimes when I get frustrated and I recall especially last weekend when we were together and he had to be away for work and I told him I was going back to my city given he has no time for me, he asked me what he had to do to show me I mattered to him that he’s trying his best and is not making himself unavailable un purpose and that I should try and understand him. I do try but I must confess it’s hard at times. Thanks for the tips I’ll implement them and try and keep my cool with him. He deserves better

    1. Thanks for your comment, Priya.

      I know it’s disgusting for a girl when her guy can’t spend much time with her.

      It isn’t that he doesn’t want to give you time. But, it’s just that he can’t give you much time at the “present moment.”
      One thing is for sure, one day, he’ll give you all the time, care, and support you expect from his side.

      I wish the day comes soon!

  4. Good information. I’ve been dating busy man for about a year. I’ve learned a lot over the year and we’re only getting stronger together. . I don’t call him during the day unless it’s important, and he’s gotten good about calling me, usually in the evening when his day is done. And sometimes during the day when he has a minute. When we can’t get together, those phone calls keep us connected. I’ve learned to be patient and trust him, keep myself busy, and I appreciate the time he makes for me. And I know he’s doing his best.

  5. Weeel, Im thinking. What’s most important? A human person or a Job? 🤷‍♀️ I think the “busy guy”, should be busy treating the releationship that is most important to him, as it where most important to him. So, work or the person you are gonna spend the rest of your life with? If someone are gonna spend the rest of their life with you, dont they desirve more than you give to Your work?

    1. Hi Selena,

      At times its job and at times it’s you! You need to understand that only a relationship won’t earn you a living. You actually need money to survive and without honestly working at a job today, you can’t bear your expenses tomorrow (Talking about the inflation here).

      Coming onto the next point, Undoubtedly a partner deserves a lot but there are times when the work has to be prioritized to improve lifestyle and achieve success. The other person is working not just for him, but he’s working for both of you!

      Trust me. Nobody wants to work day and night just because they love working. Your guy also wants to enjoy and chill out in life. However, sometimes it isn’t the best choice in the long run.

      Just once, sit calmly with him for a while and truly understand his reasons why he’s pushing so hard. Don’t let the conversation divert somewhere else. You might hear the deep reasons you’ve never heard before!

      1. Well, but my message was not about someone who actually manges a good balance. Mabye you do, thats amazeing. But, most “busy” men do not. I am a “busy” woman. But I know whats most important. And no, its not the money. You got enough, then you got enough.

        1. Hi Selena,

          Then it may be nothing else but ineffective time management or priority management. Maybe, He became so obsessed with his work that he forgot there was nothing else in his life. Try talking it out and let me know how the conversation goes (if you’re comfortable!).

        2. I have been in a relationship with a busy man . Like i would say he is fun to be with , open minded, great person. In summary he is every woman dream man. When we are together he makes me feel like the love is too perfect or its a fairy tail or something. although he is a super busy person, i have seen that myself. We are in different towns and when he is away i feel the opposite of the relationship. He hardly calls or text . I do most of the calling and the only time he manage to call it’s 2am or 1am . He doesn’t chat much and sometimes leave my msg on seen it hurts so bad but anytime he is free I really enjoy his company but he hardly gets free . I start giving up on the relationship and all that. For five days i refused to call him because i was fed up and trust me he hasn’t called or text since that day. This dude is supposed to be the man i am getting married to i love him wholeheartedly when we re together i feel he loves me too but when we are apart if feels the other way ,coz he is busy. Thanks to this article tho . Because those 9 signs you mentioned he does every single one of them but you know we ladies want attention. I am faithful to him but sometimes carried away by talking to other guys who give me attention. I am scared i dont want to loose him coz i love him

          1. Hi Bae Ezzah!

            I know it very well that ladies love attention and it’s obvious for you to feel irritated. There’s nothing wrong on your part.

            However, if you want your fairy tale relationship to be a part of your life forever, you need to stay loyal to him!

            If you already know he’s perfect for you, there’s no sense in getting inclined to other guys just because they give you attention. You might spend your free time with them, but giving up on your present relationship doesn’t seem to be a good idea.

            Another point to be noted is that they may be giving you extra attention right now just to slide into the crack and become a part of your life. Once they’ll enter your life, you might see flaws in them too (no one’s perfect).
            What will you do in such a situation? Will you give up on them too?
            Obviously, not!

            The same applies to your current relationship. It won’t always be perfect. You will have to find ways to make it work.

            Trust me. Time will come when your partner will be busier with you than his work. Just be patient!
            Giving up right now would only fill you with regrets later!

        3. Men and women are different. Usually men can only focus on one thing at a time. I get what you’re saying cause I’m very similar to you. I can take it all and manage it well job, relationship, kids. But it’s different for everyone and what they have going on.

  6. Am actually dating a student and we’re both in med school we’ve been dating for quite some time now but it seems like he’s the most busiest person . Despite us being in the same school I rarely see him and if I do it’s only for short while, I love him alot but the whole thing is just frustrating
    And I miss him alot.What do I do, give him space or just be more busier than him?

    1. Hi Peggy,

      In my opinion, once you’ll get busy, you’ll automatically give him space. Now busyness doesn’t actually mean that you compete with them in terms of who’s busier. It’s just a tool for you to keep yourself engaged and prevent obsessing over your guy’s thoughts.

      I would suggest you to stay active with your conversations and interactions as usual. Since you’ve been dating for some time, I think you’re already aware of when your guy’s free. You can also choose to be free at that time.

      Also, whenever you miss him so much that things get out of control, drop him a text (which would relax you out because you’ve expressed yourself) and ask him to call you whenever he’s free.

      Let me know if it helps!

  7. This article meant everything to me. I am in a long distance relationship with a busy man so it is very frustrating at times. This article made me realize that he is so worth it so I thank you so much for this. I’m going to make an effort to be more patient and understanding with him.

  8. Good day I really love your article! I have been dating this busy guy for like 4 months now, it’s really frustrating that he doesn’t always have my time, he doesn’t return calls but I think he prefers text and sometimes he doesn’t reply my text until next day or cancels our plan of seeing 😢 it’s makes me wanna give up! But whenever I remember him thanking me for being patient and caring, or the few times we spent together my heart melts! I really love him soo much and promised not to give up!

    1. That’s the spirit, Chisom! I am glad to know that you’re holding onto your relationship pretty well.

      I wish your relationship becomes super successful in the future.

  9. Love your article! Really needed this right now as I go through a challenging / new stage in my life with my new busy boyfriend of 4 months. He is 40 and I am 29. We have completely different life’s and he’s currently going through a divorce and has a high profile busy job.

    My question – how do you grow as a couple when they are always busy? Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

    1. Hi Geo,

      The question you’ve just asked requires a detailed answer which isn’t possible in the comments section. However, I’ll soon update the post just for you and add the answer to your question. Till then, stay connected!

  10. This is exactly what I’ve been looking for and am so glad I came upon this site. Most sites just talk about leaving etc but I’m glad you have opened my eyes.

    1. Anyone can run away from a relationship. But it takes patience, sacrifices, and resilience to nurture it.

      I know you’re strong and you’ll make your relationship super successful!

  11. I m sorry but after reading this i feel more choked, seems like all the sacrifices are to be fone my me. I have to only understand him and no other job is left. I am sorry to say i don’t agree to what you say as i feel understanding should be from both fo us and not only me. Even i am working woman, even have busy schedule but i do manage taking out tome for him or msg him. I don’t call him coz whenever he calls me i feel that call as jus a duty fulfilled as he must be thinking that i should call her or else she will go mad, and that call is not made out of love. Whenever he calls he doesn’t talk much only i am the person who will talk n he keeps on asking about my routine and nothing different or else will ask me to talk. And i have been telling him this since 5 years and there are no changes. Now i feel worthless, hopeless, and helpless for myself. I jus don’t feel like trying to keep this working. I have started feel free numb and emotionless. I jus fear i shouldn’t tum into stone. I have so much to say, but no one can help me, its useless barking. Sorry for my words. Thanks

    1. Hi Roseline,

      I respect your disagreement and I am really sorry that you felt so low after reading my post. The post wasn’t meant to hurt you at all.

      I can totally understand you’re highly frustrated right now because of turbulence in your relationship, which is why maybe you got a few things wrong, please allow me to clarify.

      First of all, I am not taking anyone’s side. I am not at all saying that you’re the only one at fault!
      The tips I shared in this post are there just to let you know how busy men love to be treated. Or how to deal with them if you can’t understand why they’re busy or just don’t know why they’re busy. They may not apply when the relationship is full of conflicts and doesn’t seem to be working at all.

      I totally accept I am not a qualified relationship coach but my opinions on various problems help a lot of people around me. So, you can share your story and vent your feelings with me on Instagram (IG: @Uprisehigh) considering me as a friend and I will try my best to help you out. It’s just not possible from my side to give you any opinions without knowing proper details.

      Hope to see you in the Instagram inbox soon!

  12. Thank you so much for this article! I have been dating a busy man for about 6 months now and I feel like I have a sea of emotions at times. Some days I’m understanding and give space, and others I can become selfish and want more of his time. I have gotten to the stage where he is opening up more and confiding in me (he recently told me he trusts me) and I cherish how far we’ve come. I do however, feel at times I’m being tested by other men trying to give me the attention that I truly crave only from him. Despite their attempts, I never lose sight of how amazing of a man he is and how terrible I would feel to lose him over something or someone that is “temporary”. So thanks to this article, I will remain loyal and love him for who he is, appreciate the effort he does give, and try not to be in my head about it so much. I keep reminding myself that it won’t always be this way and that the love & time that we both want is on the horizon. I think staying busy and finding my own happiness outside of being so consumed about him, will definitely help. Thank you again Mr. Pahwa and I will be following your Instagram for future updates!

    1. Hi Janae,

      As I can conclude from your comment, your understanding level is insane. You’re getting your partner on-point.

      I am honored to read your comment and I can pretty well say that your relationship is headed in a beautiful direction. I’m glad that I could contribute to your love life.

      Thanks a lot for becoming a part of the Uprisehigh community. You won’t be disappointed!

  13. Thank you for this article! It gives me perspective and open my mind up more. I’m a busy guy however I’m more flexible and work less hours when the guy I’m dating. We are starting a LDR (8hr difference) and he works like 12-15 hour days!
    We are 2 months in and starting to settle into a routine.
    I have definitely lighten up my days after college. I don’t like to be stressed. However, I do feel guilty having more time than him.

    What you wrote above is almost exactly how he approaching the relationship. He squeezes in texts and pictures of his day. I’m not use to snapping a picture of my automatic day and I’m trying to incorporate it. I do hold back because I have more free time and I don’t want to feel like I rubbing it in his face or be judged how I spend my free time (playing video games, sitting outside, or watching more shows than him)

    All in all, it’s been quite peaceful.

    1. Thanks a lot for your comment, Armando!

      I am extremely glad that I could give you a new perception.

      It’s so good to hear that things are going pretty well in your relationship. As time passes by, you’ll get used to the routine even more.

      Keep striving. Stay happy.

  14. Thanks for the article!
    All what you said, the advice you gave,making me understand his point of view and the action he takes when he love you is accurate, it is a process I’ve gone through in my relationship with my busyman, i agree with your point how I wish I saw this sooner but I’m grateful I learnt this and have grown from it and we are in a loving relationship.
    I do need some advice for the new challenges that I see though, so I would appreciate a reply.

  15. We are in a long distance serious relationship for a year plus now,in the beginning we always spend quality time together we still do but not as much, he had already told me he will be busy this year so I understand that. Soo because of his working schedule for now he can’t come to see me and I’m the one with a less busy schedule,he always invite me to which I decline because I haven’t travelled alone before so after lots of conversation on that we came to a conclusion which is the 2stage rule which will make it easier for us to always see each other every once in a while to which we agreed to but he hasn’t acted on it yet. What is your opinion on that should I not bring it up until he does it or I should ask him why it hasn’t been done it yet.
    It’s not as if I can’t talk to him about it but I will like to know your opinion about it.

    1. Hi Mathilda,

      Thanks a lot for your comment.

      Coming onto your query, you should absolutely remind your partner about your mutual agreement on the “2-2-2 rule.” Just try to slide the topic into your regular conversations. Don’t be pushy about it, have a peaceful conversation and I guess everything will work perfectly for you.

      Let me know how it goes.😄

  16. I appreciate this article and the comments of everyone. It makes me feel like I am not alone in this type of relationship situation. I met my BF Dec 2021 as a friends with benefits situation but then love blossomed unexpectedly and we became official in May of 2022.
    He has to travel a lot for work, he lives 4 hours from me and works from early in the morning to late at night M-Sat, while I only work 8-5 M-F, so I have a lot more free time than him. The experience is like a roller coaster of emotions and he falls off and on the spectrum of communication (he can be quite inconsistent in that area). There have been many unresponded texts and calls not returned…But whenever we do talk on the phone or get to hang in person for 1-2 days or so, it’s wonderful. The intimacy is great and he feels like my best friend because he gets me and we vibe really well. He’s also a very cute and shy man, with unique quirks that I love to witness.
    Whenever I get frustrated and voice my feelings he is very good at acknowledging what’s wrong and saying how he will fix it but he’s kinda slow to take action at times which is also frustrating.
    But the thing that keeps me holding on is when he told me that when we first met on bumble, he wasn’t looking for anything but when he met me, I’m everything he’s ever wanted :,) and he’s very thankful for me being in his life. So I hope one day in the future we can live together and have that slow & true love we deserve.

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