12 Ways to Be a Good Girlfriend 

“A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you. Thank you for being a fantastic girlfriend!” 

My partner Ankit sent me this heartwarming text on our second love anniversary. My heart danced with joy at that moment. Later, I wondered what made me an “amazing girlfriend?” 

Life is already difficult! The last thing any man wants is a partner who is never ready to stand up for him, lacks empathy and makes his life even more difficult.

“How can I be a better girlfriend?”

“Am I doing my part well?”

“I don’t think I’ve been his best partner.”

Do these thoughts keep coming to your mind? Are you trying to figure out ways to be a good girlfriend to your man? Well, as always, I am here to help. 

In this blog, I’ll guide you through 12 ways to be a better girlfriend and keep him intrigued by your love and care. I’m sure, sweetie, you’ll do your best. Don’t overthink it, and let’s dive in!

1. Be a Patient Listener.

Boys can’t show emotions. They can’t cry.

Isn’t it unfortunate how society has forced people to believe such idiotic claims for years? Your man might already be dealing with those societal burdens, and you need to be his comfort zone. 

If he’s being emotional, let him speak up. Encourage him to vent his heart out to you. Be a good listener, and be patient.

The truth is that you don’t need to give an immediate solution to each and every problem. Sometimes, guys just want someone to listen to them, feel their pain, and understand what they’re going through. 

And not only in sad times but be a listener in the usual times too. Listening to him attentively assures him that his thoughts and emotions matter to you. Trust me, my dear, that’s the least a gentleman wants from his lady. 

2. Don’t Try to Be Too Motherly.

Okay, this might be an unpopular opinion, but most guys dislike it if their girl tries to be too motherly. Well, caring, being supportive, and showing concern are essential. But you have to keep a balance! 

I have seen ladies around me who constantly try to dominate their boyfriends. They’re always sticking their nose into their guy’s plans, advising them how long they should sleep, what to eat for breakfast, etc. I mean, he’s here for a relationship, not for a “develop good habits” course! 😅

Quickly reverse the scenario and tell me. Would you like it if your boyfriend tried to be extra fatherly to you?

Not at all, right? 

As his partner, you should try showing him the right path if needed. But never go beyond your line; never try to be bossy.  

3. Be Sexy and Romantic.

And now we come to the final point of this blog. To be a good girlfriend, you have to be romantic and sexy. 😉

Don’t be mistaken; by sexy, I don’t mean you have to wear appealing dresses all the time. But I mean, you have to be a confident, supportive, and bold lady who just loves her man a lot. And, don’t forget to be in your ultra-romantic mode when you’re with him. He would absolutely love it. 

Plan exciting dates, kiss your boyfriend on his cheeks randomly, wear his favorite dress to your candle-night dinner, and flirt with him while looking directly into his eyes. 

These little steps are enough to fill his heart and keep him hooked on the lady of his life.

Being caring, concerned, and supportive is all cool, but you need to complement those qualities with extra sweet romance. That’s when your relationship will have a proper balance of everything!

4. Stick to Your Promises.

It’s an absolute turn-on for the men when their girl always sticks to the promises she makes. If you’re looking for ways to be a better girlfriend, you must take note of this point. 

So, girl, listen up. If you’re making random promises, not sticking to them, or coming up with an excuse every time, it’s obvious for your man to feel disappointed. The first thought that would hit his mind would be, “She doesn’t seem interested in this relationship/What she promised doesn’t matter to her.”

And just to make it easier for you, I’m again drawing your example here. Would you like it if your man was constantly breaking his promises? No, right? Just like that, he expects his girl to be a woman of her word; no games, no confusion. 

Not only does it strengthen the relationship, but it also reflects the qualities of your character. 

5. Acknowledge His Efforts. 

One of the other cutest ways to be a good girlfriend is to recognize his efforts to make you smile. I know many people who never appreciate what their partner is doing for them and keep complaining. 

Did he surprise you with a fantastic gift? Tell him how elated you are! Did he turn up in front of your college/office to surprise you? Let him know how wonderful you felt. Is he always ready to walk an extra mile to keep the relationship working? Speak out how lucky you feel to have him. 

If you feel you are entitled to his efforts and always keep complaining about what he’s not doing for you, he will be hurt. Instead, take note of the thousand things he is doing out of his love for you. 

A relationship needs mutual recognition, don’t you think so? 

6. Be Respectful to His Close Ones.

One of the most necessary ways to be a good girlfriend is to be nice and respectful to your guy’s family and friends. They’re an essential part of his life, so he obviously expects you to be nice to them.

Let me share a quick story here. One of my friends, Susan, used to treat her partner’s close ones very poorly. Her boyfriend tried telling her multiple times, but she turned a deaf ear to it. They had to eventually part ways because he couldn’t cope with someone who couldn’t treat his dear ones respectfully. 

Always remember. You’ve just become a part of your boyfriend’s life, but his family and friends have always been there. His parents raised him affectionately, and his friends were there for him through thick and thin. They deserve respect, and when you show them that, you earn your man’s respect, too! 

7. Be Empathetic.

If the world today lacks something, it’s empathy. We would be better off if people were more considerate and empathetic around us. As your friend, I’ll suggest the same: be kind and compassionate to your partner. 

Suppose he had a tiring day at college or work and needs some sleep now. Instead of being mad at him about why he can’t talk on the phone, ask him to have some rest.

If he suddenly gets stuck with urgent work, ask him to focus on his work for that moment rather than showing him an angry face. 

Trust me, my friend, he also wants to spend time with you. You mean a lot to him. He only wants you to understand him when he’s really busy, tired, or occupied with something.

I’m sure if you’re being a little considerate, things will be a lot easier for him. And mark my words; he would soon devise a plan to compensate for the date or phone call. 

8. Respect His Boundaries.

One significant step to becoming a good girlfriend is to start respecting your boyfriend’s boundaries. If he has conveyed to you that he doesn’t like a particular thing, place, or activity, you must take note. 

Once, I fought with Ankit about this, constantly forcing him to make late-night calls when he mentioned he sleeps early. Well, I’m glad I corrected my mistake on time. 

If you keep nagging him to do things he isn’t comfortable with, that’s a huge red flag for him. If he’s asking you to give him some space, maybe he needs it. 

It’s not you that he’s asking for a break from. He wants to spend some alone time rejuvenating and being his best version with you. Is that too much to ask for?

9. Cut Off Friendly Flirting.

I know this isn’t something that needs to be taught. But it’s an essential step in becoming a better girlfriend.

Do you flirt with your male friends/colleagues, even on a friendly note? No? Then awesome! 

But if yes, YOU NEED TO STOP IMMEDIATELY. You were free to date, flirt, and fly like a bird when you were single. But you need to ‘behave’ when you are now in a serious relationship. 

You might not have any bad intentions, or you’re just being friendly, but that will hurt your boyfriend’s feelings. I’m sure you would hate it if he were flirting with other girls in front of you or behind your back. 

You should refrain from any such activity that might cause harm to your relationship. 

10. Celebrate His Achievements.

A good girlfriend has a lot of qualities; this one is an absolute must.

Celebrate his achievements no matter how big or small. He needs to know how happy his girl is to see him succeed. 

Remember, my dear, being in a committed relationship doesn’t only mean romance, sharing cute pictures on social media, and showering each other with gifts. It goes beyond that!

A true relationship requires standing up for each other in happy and bad times, rooting for each other’s success and happiness, and getting happy when they accomplish their dreams.

Give him a tight hug, and tell him how much he deserves this success. He would be amazed to see how his girlfriend is equally invested in his celebrations. 

11. Always Be Honest. 

Honesty was, is, and always will be the best policy. Being honest with your boyfriend is a vital step towards becoming a good girlfriend. 

Didn’t like one of his behaviors? Let him know politely. Do you have a secret from your past relationship to share? Let him know that one.

A good girlfriend doesn’t only mean a romantic and caring one. But it also means someone who doesn’t keep secrets from his partner and who can comfortably give constructive feedback to his partner.

12. Be Vocal About Your Feelings. 

One of the sweetest ways to be a good girlfriend is to be vocal about your feelings. Like women, many men like to hear loving statements from their partner. 

• I’m so glad to have you. 
• You’re one of the best gifts I have ever had.
• I want a future with you. 
• You mean a lot to me. Please resolve the fight. 

Wouldn’t your mood light up if you heard such lines from him? The same applies to him as well, sweetie.

Your words of recognition, affection, and care mean the world to him. He wants his girl to express her feelings, and he’d be overjoyed to hear that he is so important to his lady love. 

Here is a small tip: Being vocal about your feelings is great, but it isn’t enough. Your actions must convince your guy that you mean what you say.

Wrapping Up

With that, we conclude our discussion on the possible ways to be a good girlfriend to your man.

Sweetie, underplaying your part won’t do any good, and you can’t overplay it either. Keep it simple, sweet, and loving. Be there for him and tell him how much his companionship means to you.

Restricting yourself in ornamented words won’t work; show him in your actions. 

Trust me, sweetheart, a gentleman will always take note of your efforts and support, and he’d feel really blessed to have a superb girlfriend like you!