13 Clear Signs He Likes You More Than a Friend

Here’s a scenario. You’ve been going through your everyday life, hanging out with friends and having fun. Suddenly, something just came up, and you had to skip attending a few of the get-togethers.

Finally, once you rejoined the group, a guy (who’s just a friend) approached you and said, “Hey, I can’t even express how much I missed you during the recent meetups. Everything felt so dull without you!”

Similar instances happen a few more times when he gives you extra attention, and you’re left wondering, “Wait! Has he started developing feelings for me?”

I got you girl. Right now, I’ll share 13 obvious that will help you know if he likes you more than a friend. Plus, I’ll tell you exactly how to deal with this situation.

Friends Or More than Friends? 13 Signs He’s Into You

So, Who the hell am I to share this with you?

Well, I’ve been in a beautiful relationship for the past five years, but before that relationship even started, my girlfriend and I were just really good friends for 7-8 months.

So, yes! You can say that I’ve been through that friendship phase, and I know how guys behave when they start developing feelings for a girl.

With that said, let’s quickly begin.

1. He Seems Over-Interested in Your Life

Does the guy have surface-level conversations with you, or do they go a lot deeper?

If it’s the latter, it could be a sign he’s developing deeper feelings for you.

You’ll notice him showing interest in your life. He’ll try to know about your family, hobbies, favorite color, and sometimes your past relationships, too. He’ll secretly try to figure out your preferences in a guy to check if he’s the right match for you.

Such conversations are unusual, and they clearly indicate something’s cooking up in his mind. 

2. He Wants to Talk “Just” a Little Bit Longer

Think about it. How were the conversations when both of you initially became friends? You rarely had phone calls, just a few short messages and quick conversations, right?

However, if you’ve recently noticed a sudden change in his communication pattern, there could be something better happening.

Now, each day begins with a “good morning” message from him and ends with a “good night” message.

He has started calling you a lot more often, and those short messages have turned into long conversations. He tries to hold onto each conversation as long as he can.

Moreover, he tries to stay connected with you throughout the day. He reaches out to you during lunch and asks you to ping him when you’re on a break.

A guy who just wanna be friends would never do such things.

3. He's a Completely Different Person With You

Have you ever observed how your guy friend behaves with others vs how he behaves with you?

Perhaps he has a strong and reserved personality when interacting with others, but right when you come into the scene, BAM! He lets all his guard down, becomes vulnerable, and starts sharing a lot about himself. He literally seems like an entirely different person.

Now, you might ask, "Varun, why does it happen?"

It's just because he likes you and feels comfortable in your presence. Hence, he's unable to hold back from showing his soft side and true self.

4. He's a Bit Shy in Front of You

So, you recently had a one-on-one interaction with your him, and he was kinda' nervous...

He seemed so confident in the early days of the friendship, but this time, he blushed often. There were moments of awkward silence, and he messed up a few words every now and then.

What does this signify?

He has started being shy around you because of his growing feelings for you. He doesn't behave this way when you're with a group of friends because he can control his feelings by avoiding you and interacting with others.

5. He Often Skips the Plans That Don't Include You

Your friends were planning a Saturday night party, so there was constant chatter in your WhatsApp group. Almost everyone, including him, was ready to join the party.

However, you were busy this weekend, so you decided to skip it this time. As soon as you text, "I'm out,"  the guy lands in your DM and tries his best to convince you to join the party. Still, if you're unconvinced, he gets highly disappointed, and you can easily sense it. 

After some time, he suddenly texts the group, "I'd skip this time as well, guys. I just remembered I have to wind up with an important project."

The same scenario happens three out of five times where he skips the same plans as you. This clearly shows he was joining the plan just for your presence.

6. He Tries to Keep Making Plans With You

Right now, I'll share a few situations with you; see if you resonate with them:

• Does he ask, "When are we meeting next?" when you are out together and about to leave?
• Does he often text you to find out if you have some free time and want to hang out? (sometimes, you might even feel he's clingy)
• Does he ask you to tag along in almost all of his plans?

If you've answered "yes" to every question, it's a possible indicator that he has a crush on you. If he had no feelings for you, he could've picked anyone and not just you; he's got other friends, right?

7. His Eyes Speak Volumes About His Feelings

The tongue may hide the truth, but the eyes - never!

~Mikhail Bulgakov

Research says women are better than men at interpreting emotions by looking into the eyes.^[1]

So, if you have the same quality, look closely into your guy friend's eyes when you meet him next time.

• Do his pupils dilate?
• Does he blink less often?
• Does he give you a prolonged gaze (more than 4 seconds)?
• Are his eyes shining?
• Are his eyes full of affection?

If you affirm, that shows he likes you.

8. He Goes Above and Beyond to Make You Feel Special

So, it's your birthday, and you expect it to be the same as your previous birthdays - cutting a cake with friends, partying, and returning home.

However, as soon as you enter the party venue, party poppers pop, and everyone starts singing the birthday song. The place is well-decorated with balloons, your favorite flowers, your favorite lights, and whatnot. The cake? It's just....spectacular!

You ask, "Who planned all this?" And all the fingers point at just one person - your guy friend.

It's not just about birthdays; he comes forward on every occasion and your every achievement to make you feel special. If he didn't have feelings for you, would he actually do this? 

9. He Settles Up Your Bills By Himself

You just got over with your group party, and it was now the time to clear the check. One of your friends (assume James) paid the entire amount, and the remaining group had to pay their share to that friend.

Right when you reached home, you texted James, "What was my share?"

Surprisingly, James told you that your guy friend has already paid your share. So, when you text him about the amount, he says, "Forget about it. Just consider it a little treat from my side. 😁"

The same scenario happens multiple times when he pays your bills without letting you know.

So, what does it mean? He's clearly having feelings for you. He feels so close to you that it doesn't matter to him if he pays for you. His share doesn't include just him; it includes both of you. 

10. He's Well Groomed and Dressed Whenever He Has to Meet You

A little secret about me: I don't usually care much about my outfit, and I'm a huge fan of track pants. I can literally go everywhere in them.

I was exactly the same when I was friends with my girlfriend. But every time I went to see her, I wanted to look my best. I ensured I had my watch, my hair was perfect, my beard was well-trimmed, etc. I'm not too fond of a clean shave, but I did it because I knew she was into clean-shaven guys.

So, if you know that your guy friend often prefers being casually dressed but puts up the best show when he has to meet you, he might be doing that just to impress you.

BONUS TIP: You might also notice that he has started wearing colors and outfits of your choice.   

11. He Treats You Differently

Has he started treating you differently lately? Does he seem more concerned about you and take care of you?

You might even notice small, cute gestures from his side - like he would serve you food when you're out on lunch, order your favorite things, pick you up from home, etc.

All of it clearly shows he's into you. 

12. His Body Language Says So

A person's body language conveys a lot about their feelings and emotions, especially when they're into you.^[1] So, if you notice him:

• Being focused on you instead of their phone
• Giving you firm hugs
• Facing you in a group setting
• Having an open posture (Relaxed shoulder, Visible hands, Unclenched jaw, and Feet are shoulder-width apart)
• Smiling with his teeth visible

It could be an indicator that he's having feelings for you.

13. He's Highly Possessive About You

I clearly remember that when I was in a friendship stage with my girlfriend, I couldn't tolerate anyone looking at her. If I ever spotted someone staring at her, I would actually block their vision by standing right in front of them and giving them a clear death stare in return.

That's how most men usually are... They're possessive about the girl they like. So, if a guy likes you, you'll see a pinch of such possessiveness in his behavior, too.

Whenever you talk about other men, you'll observe your guy friend going green with envy. He'll switch up conversations, try changing your perspective, or try to explain how he's better than them. If he sees you talking too much with other guys, he'll try to interrupt and cut them off the scene.

All this behavior shows something's definitely going on, don't you think?

How To Deal With This Situation?

Ik ik. After realizing that the guy is catching feelings, your biggest question would be, "Varun, What shall I do next?"

Don't worry. Let me break it down for you.

If you also have mutual interest...

Just enjoy this phase as much as you can. Let him muster up the courage to express his feelings for you.

Or, in case you start feeling your emotions getting out of control at any point, ask him if it's just friendship or something more profound than that. Trust me. He won't be able to resist sharing his feelings for you.  

If you don't have any romantic feelings for him...

I know you don't want to hurt him at any cost. 

So, the best way to express your disinterest is to start distancing yourself from him. Send delayed replies to his messages, turn down some of his plans, and interact more with other people when you're in a group. 

Simply put, you must fade out and become a much smaller part of his life through your actions.

He will automatically realize you're uninterested and remain within his boundaries, too.

End of the Line

That's it for this post. I hope the signs that I shared will help you know for sure if a guy really likes you. 

Apart from them, remember to trust your intuition before reaching a conclusion. If your gut says that he's catching feelings, and you relate to most of the signs, there's an extreme possibility you're right.

I truly hope you enjoyed this blog. Make sure to share your stories in the comments below; I'd love reading them and sharing my opinions.

See you in the next one.

References

1. Greenberg, D. M., Warrier, V., Abu-Akel, A., Allison, C., Gajos, K. Z., Reinecke, K., Rentfrow, P. J., Radecki, M. A., & Baron-Cohen, S. (2023). Sex and age differences in “theory of mind” across 57 countries using the English version of the “Reading the Mind in the Eyes” Test. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 120(1), e2022385119. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2022385119
2. Drescher, A. (2024, June 4). 11 body language signs a guy likes you. Simply Psychology. https://www.simplypsychology.org/signs-a-guy-likes-you-body-language.html