Have you been constantly searching for the love of your life?
Let me guess. You went on multiple dates and entered into various relationships, but things didn’t work out in the end. And now you feel that true love is out of your reach, no matter how hard you try!
But what’s the actual issue? Why can’t you find true love?
Well, I’ll be brutally honest. A few issues in your attitude, perception, or personality could be holding you back from finding true love.
But don’t worry! In this post, I’ll share 10 signs you will never find true love and what you can do to change your fate. Check those signs, match them with yourself, and start improvising today!
Remember, true love is possible for everyone, and it’s never too late to start looking for it.
Without any further ado, let’s dive right in.
10 Surefire Signs You Will Never Find True Love (+What You Can Do to Improvise)
1. You Judge People Way Too Quickly.
Give me an honest answer:- “Do you ever feel like you judge people too quickly?”
Yes? It’s alright! You’re a human, after all.
But often, this judgment can be detrimental to your love life.
You might write someone off because of a small detail or because they don’t fit your idea of what your partner should be like.
When you judge someone, you essentially label them and limit their potential in your eyes. You don’t get to know them properly or identify if there’s a connection.
Further, It can lead to us not giving them a fair chance and ultimately missing out on a great relationship.
What to Do?
The truth is that love can come from unexpected places, and the person you fall for might not be who you thought they would be.
So, if you truly want to fall in love, try to be open and receptive to the people you meet. Refrain from judging them too quickly. Instead, try to understand them and give them a chance to show you who they are.
You never know – the person you fall for might surprise you.
2. You Aren’t Willing to Make Any Effort.
Do you believe in the common misconception that love will just happen to you if you sit back and wait for it?
If so, you’re in the wrong spot, Mate!
Love often comes naturally to people, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. You can’t expect your partner to fall from the sky while you’re sitting on the couch watching Netflix.
In fact, if you’re not willing to make any effort, you’ll likely never find love.
What to Do?
Finding love requires effort and a willingness to put yourself out there.
It doesn’t necessarily mean you must go out and actively search for a partner (although there is nothing wrong with that).
But it does mean that you need to be open to the possibility of love and be willing to put yourself in situations where you might meet someone special.
From now onwards, say yes to invitations to social events, join a club or group that aligns with your interest and be open to the idea of meeting someone new when the opportunity arises.
Become proactive in your search for love, and don’t be afraid to make the first move if you feel a connection with someone.
3. You Are Unready to Accept the Post-Relationship Changes.
It’s natural for relationships to bring about changes in your life, and it’s vital to be open and willing to adapt to these changes if you want to find and maintain love.
However, if you’re someone who isn’t ready to take on any responsibilities of your partner and doesn’t want any changes in your life after entering the relationship, you will never find love.
Entering a relationship means you have to navigate new dynamics with your partner’s friends and family or make changes to your living situation. You always have to keep your partner and their needs before yourself. Further, you must balance your time with your family, friends, and partner.
Being unwilling to accept these changes is a significant roadblock to finding and maintaining love.
What to Do?
Mate, if you truly want to find love, become flexible to the changes that may come your way.
Embrace those changes as opportunities for growth and connection, and be ready to work with your partner to navigate any challenges that may arise.
Don’t expect your partner to be the one who makes all the changes for you. Prepare yourself for changes too.
4. You Don’t Have Time for Love.
Love doesn’t just happen – it requires effort and a willingness to invest time and energy into building a connection with someone. You have to be willing to sit down and talk to them and see if there’s anything else there besides just a friendship.
You can’t expect to find love if you’re always busy or too busy to spare the time for someone you’re interested in. If you are too busy with work, school, or other commitments, you may not have time to search for the partner or relationship you want.
Unfortunately, in such a situation, you will never find love and end up alone if you don’t decide to change yourself. That’s the truth, and it’s something that you have to face.
What to Do?
It’s a common misconception that you must be in a relationship to be happy and fulfilled. But the truth is that everyone has different needs and priorities. And for some of us, being single might be exactly what we need presently.
If you feel you have completely different priorities and will have no time for your partner, it’s better to stay single instead of ending up in a broken and toxic relationship.
On the other hand, If you want to find love, ensure you have the time and energy you can invest while searching for it. It might mean setting aside time each week to go on dates or meet new people and build connections with them.
It’s also vital to be open and receptive to the idea of love and to be willing to make space in your life for it if it comes your way.
Don’t be afraid to prioritize love and make time for it in your life – it could turn out to be the best decision of your life.
5. You Believe That You Don’t Deserve to Be Loved.
It’s easy to get caught up in the belief that you don’t deserve to be loved, either because of past experiences or negative self-perception.
However, this belief can be a major obstacle to finding and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships.
If you believe you don’t deserve to be loved, it can be challenging to open yourself up to the possibility of finding love. You may avoid dating or entering into new relationships. Further, you may also find it hard to accept love and affection from others, feeling unworthy or undeserving.
What to Do?
Read this carefully.
Everyone deserves to be loved and to have meaningful, supportive relationships in their lives. No one is perfect, and we all have flaws and imperfections, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to be loved.
If you have an awful past, that doesn’t mean the past will repeat itself.
Don’t lower your self-image, Mate! No one’s better than you.
To completely overcome the belief that you don’t deserve to be loved, build your self-esteem and self-worth. It may involve challenging negative self-beliefs and learning to see yourself in a more positive light. Practice self-care and self-compassion, and surround yourself with supportive, loving people.
Finding love is about being receptive to it and believing that you deserve to have it in your life.
By working on yourself, and your self-perception and opening yourself up to new possibilities, you can create the space for love to enter your life.
6. You’re Too Desperate for Love.
You know the feeling – you go to work, school, or just for a quick hangout and see love birds all around you. All those sweet couples are having a really great time.
So, if you are single right now, you may feel jealous of them, and looking at couples around you daily can make you desperate for love.
Desperation is an understandable emotion when seeking true love, but it can also be a significant barrier to finding and experiencing it.
When you are desperate for love, you often end up in a relationship with the wrong people repeatedly (even when those relationships come at the cost of sacrificing your self-respect).
Further, you may act in ways that are unappealing or even repulsive to others, and this can push people away rather than draw them closer.
For example, if you constantly seek validation and attention from others or are willing to compromise your values and beliefs to be with someone, it may be a sign that you are too desperate for love. These actions can make you seem needy or clingy and create a negative impression on potential partners.
What to Do?
Let me ask you. What kind of relationship do you want?
A healthy relationship, Right?
If so, you must get rid of your desperation. I mean, what’s the need to rush?
Realize that “good things take time.” And it’s better to search for one beautiful relationship, even when it takes a long time, instead of being in multiple toxic relationships.
Love cannot be forced or rushed – it takes time and patience to find the right person. So, try to be patient and focus on being the best version of yourself.
7. You Seek Perfection.
We all have our own idea of what the “perfect” partner or relationship looks like, and we may hold ourselves and others to impossibly high standards as a result.
Do you have a never-ending list of qualities (but zero flexibility) that a person must have to qualify as your potential partner?
If so, you’re actually chasing perfection, and you will never find love.
The truth is that no one is perfect, and trying to find someone who meets all of your criteria for perfection is an unrealistic and ultimately futile pursuit.
Not only is it impossible to find someone who meets your every standard, but pursuing perfection can also damage your happiness and well-being. Constantly searching for the “perfect” partner can lead to disappointment and frustration, and it can even prevent you from seeing the good in the people around you.
What to Do?
It’s vital to remember that love is about acceptance and understanding, not perfection.
Love is about finding someone who accepts you for who you are, flaws and all, and who loves and supports you through the ups and downs of life.
So, if you’re struggling to find love, loosen up your criteria and try letting go of the idea of perfection.
Instead, focus on finding someone who is kind, compassionate, and understanding. It may not be exactly what you had in mind, but it could lead to a more meaningful and fulfilling relationship.
8. You Get Quickly Bored With People.
There’s a friend of mine who has been in around six relationships in just one year. And the best part is – her partners in most of the relationships were pretty serious guys.
So, you must be wondering, “Why did she exit from every relationship so quickly?”
Well, It’s because she got bored! She doesn’t prefer to stick to a particular guy for a long time.
At present, she herself agrees to it that she will never find true love in life because of her attitude of getting bored.
True love is a unique and rare bond that forms between two people. It is a deep and enduring connection rooted in mutual respect, understanding, and a shared sense of purpose.
However, sustaining a long-term, meaningful relationship can be challenging if you get bored with people quickly. This is because true love requires patience, commitment, and effort to nurture and grow over time.
When you get quickly bored with people, it can be a sign that you are not fully invested in the relationship and are not willing to put in the work necessary to make it thrive.
What to Do?
If you want to find true love, it is vital to know someone entirely, even if it takes a long time.
You have to be patient and stop expecting instant gratification or perfect compatibility. You must be willing to work through any challenges or conflicts that may arise rather than giving up or moving on to someone new.
9. You Have a Flirty Attitude.
Do you feel you have a habit of flirting with almost every girl (or guy) you come across?
If so, you will never find true love.
Having a flirty attitude means you constantly seek attention and affection from others; this can send the wrong message to potential partners.
When you constantly flirt with others, it can be difficult for others to take you seriously and see you as a potential long-term partner. It is because flirting often implies a lack of commitment and a desire for casual connections rather than a deep and meaningful relationship.
What to Do?
Get rid of your flirty attitude. Else, you might even end up losing respect in the long.
Although some people might enjoy it when you flirt, it’s just because they feel validated and appreciated.
I mean, who doesn’t like appreciation? But that doesn’t mean they see a long-term partner in you.
To find true love, it is vital, to be honest, and upfront about your intentions and be fully committed to building a powerful and lasting relationship. This means being authentic and genuine and avoiding behaviors that may be seen as flirty or misleading.
Being true to yourself and your desires can increase your chances of finding the true love you are looking for.
10. You’re Extremely Afraid of Losing People. (So You Avoid Adding New Ones in Life)
You know the feeling – some people come into your life, become an essential part of it, and suddenly leave. But there’s no explanation at all.
It hurts deeply!
You may not realize it, but the fear of loss could become your biggest fear leading you to avoid adding new people into your life.
While it’s natural to feel a certain level of fear when it comes to relationships, allowing that fear to control your actions can prevent you from finding love.
If you’re terrified of losing people, you might find it difficult to open yourself up to new relationships. You might avoid letting someone new into your life, fearing they will eventually leave you. This fear can be even more if you’ve experienced significant loss in the past, whether it be the loss of a loved one or the end of a relationship.
When you’re constantly afraid of losing someone, you might be more likely to hold back, keep your distance, and avoid getting too close. This can make it difficult for you to form new connections and prevent you from finding the love you deserve.
What to Do?
Always keep this mantra in your head – “Nothing is constant in your life, including the people. Either people come into your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime.”
The key to finding love is to embrace your fears rather than allow them to hold you back. It doesn’t mean you need to throw caution to the wind and jump into a relationship without any thought or consideration. It simply means that you should be willing to take a chance on love, even if it means facing your fears.
Remember that love is a risk, and it’s worth taking. You will never find love if you’re too afraid to add new people to your life, so don’t let your fear of loss hold you back.
Take a chance at love, and see what it has to offer.
Does Everyone Find Love Eventually?
The bitter truth is: No! Unfortunately, not everyone finds true love in life.
Also, I’ll share an interesting fact. As per a study, the probability of falling in love with someone compatible who likes you back too is 1 in 562 (if you leave it entirely to fate)!
However, making efforts can change things for you. And you never know when you might come across the true love of your life.
Remember, the best things happen after the greatest efforts.
“I Will Never Find Love!” – How to Overcome This Feeling?
Here’s the magical trick, mate: You have to say, “I will definitely find love,” 9 times a day – Three times after breakfast, lunch, and dinner respectively.
Bim bam woosh! You will overcome the feeling automatically, and the love of your life will get attracted to you.
Just kidding. It won’t work!
So, my point is. No magical trick or no person can convince you that you will find love except you.
The truth is- by saying that “I will never find love,” you are actually killing all the possibilities of finding love. You’re unknowingly creating a “scarcity mindset.” Further, your beliefs are getting engrained into your subconscious mind and becoming a reality.
Now you might ask, “Varun, what shall I do now? How do I get over this?”
Well, here’s my suggestion.
Firstly, try to identify the cause of your feeling. Ask yourself why you feel this way. Are you tired of giving all your efforts? Are you fed up with getting friend-zoned?
Next, think about this. Couldn’t you have done things better or given a few more tries? Have you had a conversation with every girl on the planet? Isn’t it too early to give up?
Answering these questions would help you realize the endless chances that you still have. It would somehow aid the negativity in your mind.
The last and most crucial step is: Get a little bit out of the digital world and surround yourself with people who actually love you (friends, family, whoever). It would help you realize that you’re worthy of immense love.
Once you switch from the “scarcity mindset” to the “abundance mindset,” you will hopefully overcome the feeling that you will never find love.
What if I Never Find Love? Is it Alright?
Yeah! It’s completely okay if you never find love. I mean, you’ll still be alive on this planet, Right?
Love isn’t as crucial as food, water, and air.
But the truth is, love provides quality to your life. It’s a beautiful add-on to life!
You may be crawling through life right now, but love can make you fly. It enhances the life experience beyond imagination.
Just like in every other journey, there are ups and downs in the love journey, but those ups and downs make your bond even more powerful with your partner.
When you’re in love, there’s always someone for you whom you can reach out to on the brightest or the darkest days. You share your life with them, and they share theirs with you.
Honestly, I can’t describe the magical feelings you experience in love.
So, Yeah! If you’re okay with missing out on such an incredible experience in life, it’s okay to never search for (or find) love.
End of the Line
While it may seem like true love is elusive and out of reach, it’s vital to remember that everyone can find it.
If you feel like you may never find true love, try to keep an open mind and don’t let negativity cloud your judgment.
The fact is: Love takes time and effort, and it may require stepping outside of your comfort zone and taking risks. Don’t give up hope. You never know when love may come knocking on your door.
Keep working on yourself, and don’t be afraid to seek support from friends and loved ones. With the right mindset and a little bit of luck, you will surely find the love you’ve been searching for.
I hope you meet your dream partner soon!
See you in the next post.