8 Reasons Why Guys Stop Texting and Then Start Again

“Sophia” and “George” met at a mutual friend’s party. They hit it off instantly, talking about their shared love for travel and their dreams of exploring the world.

As weeks passed, their texting became a regular part of their lives. Sophia developed feelings for George, but he suddenly stopped texting!

Devastated and confused, Sophia couldn’t figure out what went wrong. Just when she was about to give up, she received a text from George – “Hey Sophia, what’s up? 🙋‍♂️“ Sophia stared at her phone, thinking, “Why do guys stop texting and then start again?”

Does this story sound familiar? Are you dealing with a guy who keeps disappearing? Are you confused and angry just like Sophia? If so, I’m about to tell you why guys behave like this, so you can calm the storm in your brain.

Let’s get started!

Why Does He Suddenly Stop Texting and Then Start Again? 8 Reasons

1. He’s Just Playing With You.

I hate to break this to you, but most people these days show hot and cold behavior in the initial days of texting. 

If a guy’s on-and-off texting has you puzzled, he might be playing mind games. He wants to see if you’re desperate to talk to him. Or in clearer words, he wants you to chase him.

So, dear, this is MANIPULATION at its finest! If a guy suddenly stops talking to you and starts again, it could mean he wants you to keep obsessing over him.

2. He Wants to Keep Things Casual.

A guy not looking for anything serious won’t invest much time in having serious conversations. Why? – To keep an emotional distance. Perhaps, he recently got out of a serious relationship and has no mental energy to connect with someone. Or he just simply wants to go with the flow.

If it’s been only a few weeks talking with each other, then my dear, you may want to stop overthinking. Since it’s your initial talking stage, he may want to keep things light and avoid becoming too emotionally involved with you. And by not texting you continuously, he’s able to maintain a level of detachment. 

Trust me. I feel you, girl! I’ve been in this situation before. I once had a guy who would shower me with affection one day and completely disappear for a few weeks! Later, he admitted he wasn’t looking for anything serious.

3. He’s Going Through a Rough Patch in Life.

Okay, so, not all guys are manipulative. If your guy keeps going AWOL and reconnecting with you, that could mean something’s genuinely coming up in his life that needs immediate attention.

Maybe he’s lost in life events, such as a family emergency or illness. And when he gets some respite after dealing with the issues, he texts or responds to you. 

I’ll tell you my story. I was once talking to a guy I liked. Things were going smoothly when he suddenly stopped replying to my texts. He then sent me a message after a few days that his entire family had fallen sick. 

Moral: Life happens. And it can be wild at times. So, my dear friend, give him the benefit of the doubt and see what happens!

4. There Was a Misunderstanding.

Sometimes, a slight misunderstanding can can create unnecessary drama and confusion, leading to a break in communication.

Pause for a minute and think about it. Did you say something that could’ve offended him? Did you do anything that may have caused him to pull away from you abruptly?

If so, perhaps he needs some time to restart the conversation. He may have temporarily taken some time to cool off and collect his thoughts before resuming communication.
He could’ve cut-off suddenly be because he feared it might lead to a conflict between you. So, rather than talking it out with you, he drifted away for a while. 

5. He’s Already Seeing Someone Else.

Yes, my friend, it’s a genuine possibility! If he suddenly stopped texting you one day, even when things were okay between you, it could mean his girlfriend got suspicious. And in order to fix things with her, he’s taking a break from texting you.

And guess what? When he senses that his girlfriend is no longer acting weird, he might resume the communication with you.

Now, you might wonder, “But why is he talking to me if he’s dating someone else?”

Well, maybe something is lacking in his relationship that he gets from you. Perhaps he and his girlfriend fight a lot, and talking to you relieves him. Or maybe all you’re to him is a side little piece of entertainment.

6. He’s Scared to Commit to You.

Well, here’s another interesting reason why this guy is inconsistent with texting you – He may be scared to say YES!

It happens. Our past experiences make us cynical in love. Maybe his previous relationship was so traumatic that now he’s scared to commit to anyone. 

Maybe his heart says YES, but his mind says NO! And this constant tug of war between his heart and brain is causing him to text you on and off. 

Committing to a relationship is a huge deal. You always run the risk of getting hurt. And maybe the guy just doesn’t want to get his heart broken again.

7. He’s Turned Off Now That You’re Interested in Him.

Some people genuinely fall in love. And others only want people to fall in love with THEM.

The guy that you’re dealing with probably belongs to the second category.

Did he ‘love bomb’ you when you guys first started talking?
Did he sweep you off your feet by buying you flowers, showering his love and attention, and planning cute dates?

And now, suddenly, his texting patterns have changed!

It only indicates one thing – He’s completely turned off by you now. Some people lose all their feelings when you show even the slightest interest in them. 

8. He’s Just Not That Into You.

Ouch! I know. This may hurt a lot. But sometimes, there’s nothing you can do about it.

It’s natural to always stay connected with the people we love. That’s how the human mind works. So, if a guy is into you, he will try to initiate conversations and text you small, boring details of his life. 

But, if he feels nothing for you, there’s no reason why he’d continue the conversation with you. Maybe he only sees you as a friend, which is why he may not feel the need to talk to you often. And when he returns, that’s only because he’s bored and wants to talk to someone.

What His Texting Habits Really Say About His Priorities?

You know, the way a guy texts can tell you so much about where you stand in his life. I’ve spent way too much time trying to figure it out myself!

So, I thought, why not break it down for you? Here’s a quick guide to help you understand what his texting habits really say about his priorities.

• Quick Responses: If he replies promptly, you’re on his mind. You’re likely a top priority!
• Engaging Conversations: When he asks questions and shares details, he’s invested in connecting with you.
• Sporadic Replies: Taking hours or days to respond? You might not be his main focus.
• Left on Read: Ouch! This could mean you’re not high on his priority list.
• Only Texts When He Needs Something: You might be his backup plan. Not cool!
• Constant Excuses: If he’s always “too busy” to text but active on social media, his actions speak louder than words.
• Initiates Contact: When he reaches out first, it shows he’s thinking about you.
• Consistent Communication: Regular texting, even just to say hi, means you’re important to him.
• Late Night Texts Only: This might indicate he sees you as a casual option, not a priority.
• Balances Texting with Real-Life Plans: If he uses texting to set up actual dates, he’s prioritizing quality time with you.

What Shall You Do Now? How to Respond When He Starts Texting Again?

I understand how frustrating this can be. No, really! I’ve faced this situation often. So, here’s my opinion.

First, try to identify the reason behind his behavior. Ask him if he’s dealing with genuine issues like work stress or family problems. If that’s the case, just be patient and don’t do anything. Let him come out of it. And most likely, things will turn back to normal.

However, if he doesn’t have any legit reasons, it’s time to speak up. Tell him how you really feel and ask him to change his communication habits. This might lead to an open conversation and clarity.
Still, if he doesn’t work on himself at all, it’s a clear indication he’s just not interested in you. So, it’s time to move on. You deserve better!

Wrapping Up

So, my dear friend, these were eight honest reasons guys stop texting and start again. 

Now that you know why guys behave like this, you can take some time to think about your situation and come to a conclusion. 

If you think your guy may be innocent, go ahead and be his support. But if you think he only wants to mess up with your head, drop him because you deserve better!

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