Love or Game? 13 Alarming Signs He Is a Player!

The old-school kind of love seems completely missing these days, isn’t it? 

The majority of people are playing games, and the minority – ones looking for genuine connection keeps suffering. 

Such a devastating dating scenario might scare you. That fear might create doubts about whether the guy you’re seeing is a player or sees you long-term. 

Well, as always, I am here to help! I’ll share 13 possible signs he is a player so that you can know his true intentions. 

Now, who am I to share the signs? 

Well, Before my relationship with my current partner, I dated a guy who played me well. Let his name be “Max.” How about I give you a few glimpses of my story while explaining the signs to help you understand better?

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1. He Is Only Up for Room Dates. 

One of the first signs a guy is a player is when he’s always up for a room date and has no other plan. He will persuade you to go to a room for a “good time.” 

And that’s not all. If you disagree with the proposal, the guy might get upset with you or even stop replying to your texts for a while. 

Why? Because he will set his special date with someone else. That’s precisely how players are! 

They have multiple options to satisfy their urges. You can’t serve their purpose? No problem! They’ll ask someone else to do it. 

2. He Doesn’t Seem Interested When in Public. 

A significant sign to note if the guy is a player is how he treats you in private and public. If he’s a player, when you two are alone, he’ll make you feel like you’re the best thing that could ever happen to him. 

However, the tables will turn in public. The guy will have a distant body language from you and won’t treat you like a princess. You can even notice him checking out other girls. 

He wants to carry the image of being “single” when he’s out in public places, hence, trying to maintain a fine line with you. You know what’s funny? If you cross-question him regarding the same, he’d simply deny it! 

3. He’s Overly Sweet When He Needs You. 

Players are perfect planners, real wordsmiths, and genuine convincers when it comes to their needs. 

The way the guy will trick you into being a mere dice in his game is beyond your imagination. He’ll be extra sweet with you when he’s trying to invite you out for a plan. 

“You’re drop-dead gorgeous. Let’s go here and have a wonderful time.”

“You don’t understand how beautiful you are. It would be wonderful to spend the evening together.” 

The problem is that he’ll only use such sweet words when in the mood. The rest of the time, he’s either unavailable or inconsistent with his behavior. 

The extra sweetness is actually an indication the guy’s tempting you. His momentary ‘queen-like’ treatment with you is to get his purpose served. 

He’s also using a similar attitude with other girls to lure them to his game. It’s him having all the fun and attention from some lovely ladies while the latter is suffering. 

4. He Is on Great Terms With All His Ex. 

A player is passionate about games. From one girl to another, the guy doesn’t mind changing partners quite often. 

It’s harsh to hear but true; if he’s a player, he’d have been in multiple relationships before that had overlapped with each other. You know what’s ironic? He still maintains a cordial relationship with all his ex-partners. 

It’s because players are great manipulators. It’s easy for them to trick girls with their words and win their trust. Perhaps all his ex-partners are still hoping for a reconciliation with him. 

You’re just a sexual object to him. Why the hell will he bother introducing you to his friends and family? He’ll cut down any possibilities that make you think you hold some extra importance in his life. 

He wouldn’t have even introduced you to his female friends in the past. What if his friends spill the beans in front of you? He can’t risk losing you, or one of his ‘options’ is gone. 

Please remember, not introducing you to friends and family isn’t the surefire sign of a player. But, if this action is accompanied by one or more of the mentioned signs, that should be an eye-opener. 

7. He Holds a Lot of Mystery.

One of the other signs he is a player is when the guy holds lots of mystery inside him. Even if you’ve been talking to him for quite some time now, he’s constantly secretive about himself. 

If you’re having similar doubts in your mind that he’s mysterious, you’re not wrong. He keeps hiding secrets. Otherwise, his beans will be spilled in front of all his ‘special girls!’ 

How is he going to have the fun, then? Come on, dear, he has an image he can’t ruin! 

When I was with “Max,” I always felt he wasn’t an open book. He was really particular with his conversations and didn’t talk much about his whereabouts, hobbies, etc. 

Think of it. Do you feel your guy carries intense mystery with him? Do you feel like you hardly know anything about him? If yes, that could signal that he’s playing games with you. 

8. He is a Great Manipulator. 

Manipulation is the biggest sword for playboys! The guy can take the game to the next level with simple, manipulative words. 

• He is at fault but will manipulate you to believe you’ve made the mistake. 
• He will pretend to be sorry and win you over with cheesy texts.
• He will always devise a decent excuse imploring you to fall for his words. 

To sum up, he’ll either play the victim card or convince you to believe every word he says. And that’s how he keeps you engaged with him and so his other girls. 

I fell for this trick again and again. Whenever “Max” did something wrong, he would seek forgiveness and repeat the same. I was glad I could walk away from him, or my mental peace was at stake. 

9. He Tries to ‘Escape’ Your Friends.

Another possible sign a guy is a player is that he’s too reluctant to meet your friends. 

He always makes an excuse to avoid such meetups or might directly tell you he doesn’t want to meet your friends. 

You might wonder why he isn’t interested. Well, I’d think the same when Max behaved this way. Today, I understand the reason.

• What if one of your friends turns out to be his ‘special one?’
• What if the meetup digs the sources to some common connections?

There could be more reasons, but in short, playboys fear being exposed, or their game will be wrapped. So they take every step very cautiously.  

10. He Flirts With Other Women Even if You’re Around.

One of the other signs a guy is a player is when he never misses a chance to flirt with other women, even when you’re around. It surely hurts your feelings, but why would he care? He’s a player, sweetie! 

It’s not necessary that he wants a commitment from them; it’s his natural way of dealing with the ladies around him. And if you try telling him how you feel about it, he will make you guilty of having a ‘doubtful and insecure mind.’ 

“Max” would always flirt with women around him. He’d be a deaf ear to my complaints and keep up with his ways.

One day, I couldn’t bear it anymore and busted into anger. And then? He tricked the game so well that I started believing I was being overly suspicious.

11. He Isn’t Interested in Knowing in Detail About You. 

A playboy hardly cares about your background, hobbies, passions, etc. He is only interested in keeping you in his life with tons of other options and having his desired fun with you that satisfies his sexual interest. 

As his interest is limited to the bed, he won’t put an extra effort into knowing more about you. You’ll see him ‘online,’ but he will give slow and monotonous replies even if you try to understand him better. 

Come on, dear! He’s a playboy with a lot of work to do: maintain his class, trick other girls, flirt with them, and whatnot. Why would he mind wasting time on you to know you better? 

12. He Is Always Hiding His Phone.

One of the other signs of a player is when he always guards his phone. Even if it rang with a text message notification, he’d protect it as if robbers were digging a pit to hide treasure. 

If he gets a call and isn’t near the phone, he’ll strictly ask you not to touch it or receive the call. When he picks up a call in front of you, he’ll distance himself to speak with the other person so you don’t hear the conversation. 

And it’s not for once, but a consistent scenario!

I’d often wonder why “Max” would go a distance to take a call every time his phone rang. I hardly knew that time; he was busy chatting with his other girls. 

My dear, if you have often observed this instinct in him, that’s a warning. There are high chances he’s playing with you. 

13. He Knows Immediately When Another Guy Tries to Flirt With You. 

If he’s a player, he’d be well versed with the guys’ tricks that they use to hit up on other women because he is a master in it. 

He can tell immediately if another guy is trying to seek your attention and flirt with you. You might wonder if he’s jealous or trying to protect you from something.

Well, it can be anything.

• He doesn’t want to let you go, or he’ll fall short of one option. 
• It hurts his ego to think someone else will steal ‘his girl’ when he has put all the ‘effort’ into her.
• He has realized he has some profound feelings for you. 

The third one is a rare possibility. Usually, it’s either the first or second one. Because players love being the center of attention, they can’t make peace with the fact someone else is trying to take their seat.

Wrapping Up

With that, we conclude our discussion on the possible signs he’s a player. 

In this world filled with temporary attachments, spotting the difference between fake and genuine connections is a real issue. So, it’s better to gauge them from their actions. 

If you relate more than one sign from the above with the guy, count it as a sure chance he’s a playboy. 

You’re a beautiful lady, my dear, and you surely deserve someone to whom you’re too precious to lose. 

Make your next move wisely, sweetie. Don’t let anyone treat you like trash!